Pants and Feelings

posted on: 7/31/2012

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As much as I'd like to say that after this post, I've got it all figured out -- I don't. I might have it even less figured out. You see, I've been frustrated with my blog for a little while now. (Who admits this right?) Frustrated is probably not the best word to use -- well, actually it is. When you document your outfits for a good portion of three years, you really end up documenting your life. I've never realized how much of my emotions, personality, or life situations I put into dressing myself. I always just thought I liked clothes and that I was a lush so a blog was a good outlet for me, turns out I really do dress to how I live my life or how I'm feeling. (Side note: I went Emo (pre-hipster) for some time in college. This is a separate and glorious post that I owe you sometime.) It's actually hard for me to go through my archives because I'll deeply remember how hard a time of my life was or how happy it was, all by an outfit post. Without any more words than I share, I feel like you know me pretty well. Strangely, just by my clothes. 

I think the hardest part of having a blog that people read is a) remembering that I'm just a normal person and b) hoping that everyone else remembers that I'm just a normal person, too. It's hard to admit that I'm not an expert on everything that is style, that is owning your own business. I don't really know that many things, but when I do figure something out I promise I share it with you. (I know, I know a sock bun tutorial IS in order.) 

I've thought about it and mainly my frustration has been because I haven't felt like myself on here in a while. I try to tell myself -- so what? It's just an outfit, get over it. But honestly, it's a little bit more than just an outfit. In a weird way, it's my life. It's how I share with you a little bit of my life, a little bit of my personality, a little bit of how I feel. I know that when I look back on the last nine months of these posts, I might not always recognize myself. But today I'd like to. 

I pulled these pants from my closet this morning to wear today. I've had for a few months now and I've worn them many times in real life just not in blog land. I followed these pants at Anthropologie for months because I knew they'd go on sale. Ain't nobody gonna buy polka dot wide leg pants. Except for me, that is. So why have I never shared them with you before? Because I didn't think Kendi Everyday would wear them. Kendi Skeen* would wear them. But Kendi Everyday -- what would the internet say? 

I hope you don't hear offense in what I'm about to say but I'd like to be who I am today, no approval needed, and I'd like to wear these pants. Damn it. (The 'damn it' really adds a bit of class to this post, no?) And I'm pretty sure that's going to be okay with you.


*Skeen is my last name, if there was any confusion there. It's not Everyday.

46 comments:

  1. Best post yet. Beautiful....honest...and relatable (at least to this rookie blogger <9monthsin>). Thanks for sharing.

    Melissa
    www.modafrescablog.blogspot.com

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  2. Yours has rapidly become one of my favorite blogs. Thank you.

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  3. Great post. I love the pants & they look fantastic on you. So glad you gave these pants a chance! ;) you've always been genuine in your blog & I think your readers know that.
    P.S. what do you mean your last name isn't Every Day??? :)

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  4. I've always loved your blog for your effortless but unique style. Love the realness. makes me want to read more, not less. its your blog, you can cry if you want to (or wear ridiculous outfits that only you can pull off)! i'll follow any fashion trends kendi everyday (skeen) starts. ;)

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  5. Kendi Everyday, Kendi Skeen... I think you're a rockstar whatever.
    And the sock bun tutorial? Life changing. (This is coming from a girl who considers herself the doyenne of bun knowledge...)

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  6. First off, I think "Skeen is my last name, not Everyday" is hilarious. Second, I think those pants are awesome, and also whatever you put together WILL look fabulous because you know what looks good! Thanks for sharing your real feelings though, it makes your blog seem a lot more personal. I'm a huge fan!

    perfectly priya

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  7. love... everything... pants and honesty!

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  8. Love. the. pants. Love. the. blog.

    I read Kendi Everyday well, everyday. And when I can't, I go back and read the posts I've missed as soon as possible. To be honest, if I wanted to read a blog written by a snotty, bitchface who wouldn't be seen in wide-leg polka dot pants, there are innumerable blogs I could read. But, I don't. I read yours because whether Skeen, Everyday, Post-Emo, Pre-Alki or whatever, you're pretty freaking amazing to me.

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    1. I second everything NeenaJ said!!!!! Exactly what I would say! :)

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  9. ummm, I LOVE these pants! I've been on the hunt for some wide leg pants, thanks for wearing these in an adorable way :)

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  10. i love your blog, i love this post and i love the pants!

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  11. Those pants are cool, and I always thought Kendi Everyday was the same as Kendi Skeen. :P

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  12. Don´t feel ashamed, I also have a pair of polka dot wide leg pants...great post by the way!!!

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  13. Thank you for that. I needed to hear all of those words. You're right -- everything except for the yellow tights. I stopped wearing those because sleezy men on flickr sent me messages that were CREEPY and ever since I can't look at colored tights. So besides that, you are spot on. :) 

    I think sometimes creativity is hindered by opinion, rather we like it or not. Yes, I completely get the art of the outfit concept exactly. Exactly how my brain works, too! That's what made me start my blog in the first place -- why not look at your closet as a blank canvas? So thank you for the kind reminder. Sometimes the origin of where you start gets lost on the path, ya know? 

    Sometimes the real Kendi gets a little gun shy and she pares down the weird, just so that I don't get the comments that re-affirm things I already know. But I'm reading your comment over and over and it's so re-affirming. 

    Thanks for loving me through the yellow tights years, the dress as a top years, and the what seems like a scene from reality bites year. 

    XO

    K

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  14. Hahaha -- I see the compliment in there so thank you. Honestly I think it's my height more than my weight, if that helps at all :)

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  15. THANK YOU!! I'm a bit nervous but excited!

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  16. You have a good point there, Ash! You're right -- I shouldn't underestimate you guys at all. I mean if you're here you must have good taste, right? ;)

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  17. Kendi! You are such a doll. Wear whatever you want and just keep being yourself. I adore your blog and your style, but my favorite thing about you is your ways with words. You are hilarious and you make my day every single day! Thanks. (and I want the pants.)

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  18. Kendi, I love those pants!! It was my first thought before I even read the post. Love the post too. I love your blog so much because you come across as a normal person (does that sound weird?) with amazing style.  I say just be you! 

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  19. I want throes pants.. And I adore your personality (on the blog that is as I don't know you in real life). You have the unique ability to transfer the sarcasm in your head to paper{ie Internet} and have it be done effortlessly and flawlessly to the reader. Xoxoxo

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  20. Hey Kendi, first time commentor, long time reader (always wanted to say that).
    It sounds like you've become a victim of your own success in a way. With popularity, you have invariably acquired a few trolls along the way who live to criticize others and relish in making people question their own choices and who they are. Maybe its made you feel less like sharing your real self as a form a defence - i don't blame you - but kendi skeen and kendi everyday are one in the same and you should be able to show every aspect of yourself on here. You've got a good following of loyal readers who love your style and love your sharp wit, and also your polka dot pants.

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  21. For the record, I WOULD TOTALLY BUY THOSE PANTS!  Duh.

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  22. Honestly, I like this version! You are being you and that's all you should be. Don't worry about who likes what....this is by far one of my favorite outfits I have seen from you in awhile. Being relaxed and being ourselves and showing that realness is what draws people in....not what you think they want to see. Keep it up! 

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  23. 1. I am stoked for this glorious post about your "emo stage" 
    2. Let your real personality fly! I bet we will love it! And you must MUST share amazing outfits with awesome polka dot pants! Let's see more of Kendi Skeen on Kendi Everyday! We are tight behind you! :)

    I'm loving these pants so much, and your honesty and transparency in this post even more! ..which is why I shared it on my blog today as part of my weekly "Saturday link love" !

    Here's a little link if you'd like to take a look-see! :
    http://thelovelylemon.com/2012/08/04/saturday-link-love-7/

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  24. I adore those pants and commend your honesty. Blogging isn't as easy as it looks! xox.

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  25. It's good to see that even the bloggers I look up to go through the same things I do sometimes. Not that I rejoice you are having a hard time. Just that it's good to see we are not that all different all of us. 

    Also, all I could think of while reading your two posts was this song by Darrelle London: 
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=imYozZyhz_Q

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  26. I love these pants!  Maybe because they look like pjs and I LOVE pjs.  Regardless of the reason, it never occurred to me that you would be "hiding" Kendi Skeen...  Of course, it makes sense because I think we're all more aware of who we are on the interwebs, but it also makes me a bit sad.  Sad that we hide ourselves, and sad that as a reader I assume your life is all Anthropologie and rainbows.

    But I love your blog and would LOVE to know Kendi Skeen! Unless she's super boring that is :)

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  27. I know I am waaaaay behind, but I had to post my comment anyway. After opening your site this morning, this is the 1st outfit I found myself wanting to pin! Keep being yourself - your tribe will recognize you.

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  28. Kendi, I went to Anthropologie yesterday in search of these glorious pants and instead found these, which are not yet within the range of money I am willing to spend at Anthropologie: 
    http://www.anthropologie.com/anthro/catalog/productdetail.jsp?navAction=jump&id=A24550972&parentid=SEARCH_RESULTS&color=041

    I was SO sad.

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  29. I actually super love this outfit. More than a lot of stuff I see on fashion blogs...

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  30. I know I'm late to the party, but I was actually shocked to see these pants on here. Not to be a jerk, but most of your outfits are too catalog-y for my taste and I stopped reading; I can see the same looks in a Loft lookbook. When I saw you in the IFB pic, I decided to see what you were up to, since some of my favorite bloggers were pictured with you. I'm not saying this to hurt your feelings, but I'm saying that if these pants are more "Kendi", and you started dressing more true to yourself, I'd be much more excited about and inspired by your blog. Readers like plot development; the same outfits, like the same plot, get boring. So I hope to see some more ballsy fashion about these parts.

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  31. A story for you: I bought hot pink, high-waisted, linen pants from a thrift store because they are so awesome. But so scary. If worn the wrong way, they would like Great Aunt Lucille after a Florida vacation. After six months, I committed to wearing them, but got cold feet on the morning of. I tried on three different shirts. Nothing looked right. All I could think of was, "Kendi Granny bottom!" I searched those magical words and found the exact post I was looking for, the one where you wear the blue, high-waisted, once-belonged-to-someone's-granny-pants. The leopard print belt was what I needed to pull it all together. I got compliments all day long, even though I vacilated back and forth between feeling awesome and feeling 85. My point? You inspired me to take a risk. Your personality coming through inspired me to let mine come through, too.
    I can't imagine putting it all out there on a blog everyday, where people judge and think they know you, and all of that. I feel like I know you, and I have to remind myself that I do not, but you make me feel at home, if that makes sense. I adore you, I feel protective of you, you feel like a friend, even if it's just a blog world friend. And the beauty of friendship (even fantasy friendship!) is that friends accept you as you are. I've been reading since near the beginning, and it's been exciting to see you evolve and yet retain your you. That's not a typo. You got where you are because you are you; I"ll keep following you because I like you, however you are. Judging from these comments, I'm not alone. 

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  32. AHeartandSoulStoryAugust 8, 2012 at 11:52 AM

    I love that look and please be yourself on the blog, we want to see kendi, in every way. you don't need to be two people. I have had similar thoughts, that sometimes I dress for my blog, not for myself, but it doesn't make any sense, because you are your blog and you should be comfortable with everything, also showing the not so smart or blogger like choices, if you feel like them! Keep it going, i like this real thing!

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  33. I really love the look and totally understand what you mean. Always be yourself, because everyone else is already taken :)

    -Melissa

    www.melissacorona.blogspot.com

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  34. I know I'm days late to be commenting but life is nutz and won't let me read all my blogs as often as I'd like. Sorry. 
    I am totally in love with those pants and I'm totally down with whichever Kendi wants to wear them, wherever she wants to wear them. Do your thang girl. :)

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  35. Jeanneelizabeth22August 9, 2012 at 7:54 PM

    I think this might be one of my favorite outfits of yours. Please show us more of this. I love it!

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  36. I agree with everyone. Love the pants and you should post what is you not what you want people to think you are!

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  37. blogging is SO hard, and i admire your tenacious, consistent approach to yours! keep it up, and thanks for being honest while you're at it. you don't have to fake your way through blogging life.

    and by the way, you're wearing the hell out of those pants. xo

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  38. Kendi, I've been a quiet stalker of your blog for a long time (small-town parking garage days), and the thing I've always loved about you was your ability to mix being unique with looking fabulous.  You dare to be different, and look damn good doing it.  I was scrolling through old posts tonight (it's been a busy summer, and I was indulging in a long-time-coming Kendi fix), and the first thing I thought when I saw this was "Yes!  I love it when Kendi posts something funky and totally her"... and then I read the text. I think you should know that you were the person who took this jeans a t-shirt girl and made her into a "I get to create myself every day---this is amazing!" feeling sorta girl.  It sounds silly, but reading your blog has made me so much more confident and interested in who I am and what I'm about.  More often than not these days, I like who I am.  And even more than that, I like being able to create it every day, just with a little intention about what I put on my body.  It sounds silly to say it's been life changing, reading your blog.... but it kind of has been.

    So please, please----wear the polka dotted pants.  Not because anyone else will wear them, but because someone might see you and be inspired to be themselves, too.

    Thanks for everything.

    Rebekah

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  39. I have gone through about 15 pages of your blog...and this was my favorite outfit. You look amazing. 

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  40. after reading this post i wanted to tell you.  i was going through the outfits and this one is my favorite.  maybe put more like this up.  we wanna see what you would wear - not kendi everyday.  

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  41. This was the one that really made me stop and stare :) It's the way that I will dress when I can finally afford to ;P

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  42. I love the pants, Kendi! If you always wore what was expected, your blog wouldn't be nearly as fun to read!

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  43. lol i stalk many blogs. But this is my first comment ever. This post made me laugh (and yes, out loud ;)  
    "Aint nobody gonna buy polka dot wide leg pants. Except for me, that is."
    So glad I've found you! :)

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  44. I'm way late commenting but let me say thank you for being a real person who is willing to share her life and her struggles. We'll love you no matter what you write or what you wear.

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