Ah, shopping. One of my favorite words. If shopping were a person, we’d be frenemies — as I only talk to her when I either need something or I need a good therapy session. Plus, she gets mad at me because I only treat her to lunch at the food court.
Anyways, this week in our Working Closet series is shopping. So far we’ve cleaned out our clothes, assessed our needs and organized our mess so we are very well prepared to go shopping. Remember when I told you to make a list in the assess section? Well get that list ready, girls and boys, we’re going shopping.
1. Get your list on. Just like I mentioned before, create a closet shopping list much like you would a grocery list. Obviously, it will not be necessary to fulfill this list each week (no matter how you look at it, you won’t starve without clothes) but it is necessary to know what you need for when you do go shopping. I keep my list on my phone, so that I can remember what I need versus what I want.
2. Be intentional. I know I sound a lot like Jess here, but it’s true. If you are using shopping for anything other than fulfilling a need of something to wear, then you are abusing the privilege. I know this because I abuse shopping all of the time. I love it — it’s my vice. Everyone has a vice, for some it’s smoking, gambling, drinking too much. For me, it’s shopping. But that doesn’t mean that I can’t find a balance between enjoying shopping and using it to my advantage. And although I have not quite conquered this yet, I know the truth. And the truth is when you are intentional with shopping, you spend what you budgeted and you get only what you need. Be intentional. Don’t make me say it again. (be intentional)
3. Shop more, not less. Wait — what did I just say? You heard me. Shop more, not less. No, the world economy and all of the retailers in it are not paying me to say that. What I mean is this: Shopping intentionally takes time and energy. I am constantly “shopping” but I’m not spending a dime. Since I like stores like J.Crew, Loft or Gap, I have to keep an eye out for deals or sales. I rarely buy something full price at those stores. Since I live an hour away from the closest mall, creeping by every day and asking “having a sale yet?” isn’t an option. Instead I keep an eye on sales by signing up for their emails and getting on their mailing list. Just this week I got 4 coupons in the mail alone and even more emails telling me about their sales. Now, if I needed something and I have money for it on my budget, this would be the time to shop. But my list has been checked off and I have no more money to spend this month. So I will by-pass these savings, as you aren’t really saving money by buying it if you don’t need it.
*I should also note that this really applies to shopping retail. If you prefer shopping thrift or second-hand, the best thing to do is to know when they stock their items (as this will guarantee that week’s best selection) and what days they have their deals. Most thrift stores have the same deals each week (Saturday is $5 bag day at my local Salvation Army), so be sure to ask when they have their discount days.
4. Choose quality over quantity, every time. Some people ask how I can afford the items that I do and at full-price I can’t sometimes. But this is something I’ve learned over my years as a shopper, I believe Shakespeare said it best: “tis better to by 1 really nice item you will wear a lot, than 5 really crappy items you will wear once.” It took me a lot of wasted money to figure this out. I would spend $100 on 5 or 6 things that I never wore and then lust over 1 skirt at J.Crew that I would probably wear all of the time, saying I could never afford that $100 skirt. Well that was true, because I was literally throwing my money away on cheap items that I only bought because they were cheap. When you spend money on a nice piece, it is an investment. Therefore you want to treat that piece well and wear it as many times as possible. For me anyways, I have to watch what I buy and make sure that it’s the quality I’m buying and not because it’s on sale. I try to stick with higher quality items that I know will stand the test of time. Even if that means I can only buy 1 or 2 items that month. Here is a good rule of thumb that I use when something is on sale: “Would I buy this item at full-price?” If the answer is yes, then I have no heartburn in buying it on sale. If I waiver on it, then I put it back.
There is no magic scale of quality. My quality could be J.Crew or Gap while someone else’s could be Coach or Tory Burch and someone else’s could be Target and Old Navy. Or perhaps you like to only shop vintage or thrift stores. Listen here: It does not matter. Just make sure that what you buy, you understand is an investment that you are making into your closet. Therefore buy something worth wearing many times and don’t waste your time or money on things that you’ll never wear. (Shakespeare didn’t write that one, I did.)
5. Set a budget. (This perhaps should have been the first rule. Oh well. Mix ’em up in whatever order you’d like.) Everyone’s budget looks different, just make sure you have one. Maybe you can spend $100 a month on clothing or $100 every three months. Whatever your budget is make sure you know it and most importantly that you follow it.
It helps me to let my husband know each month what I can spend. Because he will call me on it every time if I try to go over. The responsible part of my brain calls this accountability, the irresponsible part of my brain calls this annoying. Either way it’s good to stick to my budget. And please know that building your wardrobe does not happen with one shopping trip nor does it have a specific time tied to it. Building your wardrobe is a constant cycle of ebb and flow, so don’t worry about finding a complete wardrobe in one day. That would be exhausting.
6. Whatever you buy, make sure it fits. And I don’t mean on your body. Well I do — it should fit your body, do not buy clothes too big or small that would be ridiculous. But I mean it should fit into your wardrobe immediately. If you have to buy 2-3 other pieces just to be able to wear something, then what the heck are you doing buying it? If it doesn’t naturally fit in your closet, then you probably won’t wear it. I’ve proven this fact over and over again. Who knew that all my years as a shopaholic I was just doing research for my blog to help you guys?
You are welcome.