I’ve been watching a lot of house hunters on HGTV lately because for some reason there is nothing more soothing than watching someone else’s house search and decision making process and then slightly judging them for how they react when what they want is totally out of their budget. Much to my husband’s chagrin, I could watch this show for hours. (He has a two episode limit, which I commend him for.) After House Hunters, the House Hunters international edition comes on, where people search for houses in paradise locations. Pretty much 80% of the stories are of couples who have saved up their entire careers to then sell everything they own back in the states, quit their stress-inducing jobs and move to an exotic resort location and live. They talk about how stressful their jobs have been, how they can’t wait to get away from it all — finally for the first time to not feel stressed in their adult lives. This is what drives them. By the end of the episode it shows the couples happily grilling out on their new patios in paradise or swimming with dolphins (which apparently is just the ultimate stress reliever). Not a care in the world now that they’ve left their other lives, lives that were once filled with stress and worry. 
Every time after these episodes, though, I always feel a bit conflicted. At first I thought it was because I too wanted to swim with dolphins in paradise outside of my million dollar bungalow, but after thinking about it I knew that wasn’t why. Just like those couples in the episodes, I too long for a simpler existence. But I don’t know if waiting 20 more years and saving more money than we will ever make is the right path for me. Since dealing with — and well actually acknowledging the presence of depression, I know that part of what I’ve been striving for all along is not just happiness but simplicity. Life gets dark in complications at times; but simplicity is light. Exactly what they were striving for, I am, too.  In their case they were striving by saving and dreaming. For me, I strived through struggle, which sadly does not end with a huge savings account or a nice tan but perhaps with a different perspective instead. 
And after seriously thinking about relocating to the Bahamas, I realized I can’t move my life there, I still have to deal with depression no matter where I live, and to be honest, the sea scares the shit out of me. I’m more of a pool girl than a beach girl. Sand and sea creatures just don’t do it for me. 
One day I was at my friend’s house, she was cooking dinner for us and I was wondering around her beautiful little home. Perfectly curated for their family, it sits on a couple of acres of tree-lined land. I told her how much I loved her house, how it reminded me of the Hill Country and then she said something that struck a chord with me. She said her home made her feel like she was always on vacation and how lucky she felt to live there. 
There it was, so much truth in such a short sentence. She had figured it out. She saw her life for what it was and she loved it as it was. I truly believe we all have the chance to make our lives the way we want them to be, even in the best circumstances and in the worst. (Though I hate to admit that because I typically fall apart in the worst of situations and then take aim at everything around me to blame.) But my friend, she choose to live away from the city, she choose to fill her house with comfortable surroundings, she choose to live the way she wanted to and she was happy for it. 
Last week, B and I moved to a new house a few blocks away from the shop. Something that has been in the back of our minds since moving to McKinney, but it was never a viable option until about 3 weeks ago. Long are the days of driving in morning and afternoon traffic. Now we get to walk together to and from the house and shop. And with that small but significant change of address, our life has become more simple. I get to walk home for lunch, for instance, no longer having to choke down another frozen lunch in a dark back room or talking ourselves out of said frozen lunch and spending money on fast food. I get to actually enjoy lunch — which sounds strange probably, but it’s a nice break in the day. I’ve struggled with our schedule as business owners; always feeling the need to be stressed, overwhelmed and busy. But it turns out that trifecta leads to crippling anxiety for me. There is fear in a slower pace, though;  what if everything doesn’t get done? What if I can’t blog 4 outfits a week? What if someone thinks I’m not working hard? (Yes, that’s a viable fear I have.) What if, what if, what if? 
But what if life could be enjoyable, even if it just starts with a simple lunch or taking my dog for a walk in the middle of the day? What if there was joy in a full day’s work and not worry in the work that’s waiting for tomorrow? What if taking a vacation was as easy as coming home at 5 o’clock? What if it is just that simple?
I feel lucky to have struggled, honestly. Because of the struggle I can look around and see the story that is being written. It’s not a perfect story but it’s a good one. While we don’t have acres of land that we own or a million dollars in savings and a beach front property, we do have a back patio for summer nights, we have enough money to get by and when we want to feel the sunshine, it’s as easy as opening the door and stepping outside. With one stressful move, life has become more simple. 

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  1. This is beautiful, Kendi. I’m so glad you’re enjoying your new home and working toward a simpler life. That has definitely been my goal lately. But as you know, it can be difficult to find simplicity when you’re always trying to accomplish more and when you’re always worrying what others think of you. Thank you for an eye opening post!

  2. Thank you for sharing Kendi. I too amidst the business and needing to feel productive (always it seems!) have felt the pull to make life more simple and to enjoy the little things . I am really excited for your move, it seems like it came at just the right time!

  3. So awesome. It’s amazing what one simple (but also pretty big) change can do. Enjoy those lunches. You’ve inspired me to try and enjoy the little things too!

  4. Thanks for Sharing! Glad you’ve been able to find gratitude for the small things in life. You’ve inspired me to do the same. Plus, I love house hunters too – and I could watch it for hours on end. Great minds, they think alike! 😉

    Megan
    budgetfashion101.blogspot.ca

  5. congrats on the move! sometimes there’s nothing better than sitting on the back porch with the one you love, it’s perfect.

  6. yes, yes, yes. house hunters is a serious obsession of mine, but it drives me nuts when everyone talks about how long they waited. what if they never made it to that age? the time to be happy is right now, the time to go for it is right now. love this post more than the outfit posts! it’s true. xo

  7. There is a great quote that a friend shared with me once when I was in the midst of a depression… “Where ever you go, there you are.”

    I have often felt like moving away would solve all my problems and though. I think moving can help if you are in the completely wrong place for your spirit but for the most part it won’t change much because depression lives inside of us, not out. So digging deep within ourselves to find ways to enjoy life where we are, as we are, is definitely a much better solution. 🙂

  8. I’ve always loved your blog, and now that you’re sharing more of your thoughts and your life with us, I love it even more! Thanks again for your beautiful courage.

  9. What if my life is amazing? What if I become the person I dream of? What if.. I change someone’s life just by being real? What if I’m an incredible mom? What if… powerful words… all a strong possibility… you are amazing.. and I fall asleep watching HGTV almost every night!

    Hope

    hchdesigns.blogspot.com

  10. This morning, Chad and I were driving to the shop together and we pulled through our favorite breakfast drive-thru to order the same thing we order every morning. Doak was in the backseat, and we chatted with the guy who takes our order. When we left the parking lot, I turned to Chad and said, “I feel so lucky. I’m so happy exactly we are right now.”

    Three or four years ago, I wasn’t sure I’d ever know how to feel happy again. I thought I’d lost it somehow. Reading about your experiences with depression and anxiety was like reading a page from my own story, Kendi. But as difficult as my darkest days were, I’m grateful for them; they remind me of what a blessing it is to just be at peace. Content. To not feel the invisible elephant on my chest, and to breathe without having to think about it.

    Simplicity has been my mantra for the last year or so. I had this overwhelming desire to pare down all the excess — from shopping, to work, and even blogging. Someone once told me to try and live by the 80/20 rule. If you can accomplish 80% of your to-do list by the time you clock out, you’re doing well. Save the other 20% for tomorrow, when you can come back rested and with a fresh perspective.

    There are a few other things I’ve done to help achieve that elusive business/life balance. Like setting aside weekly time for my family and friends, sleeping a Sunday afternoon away without feeling guilty, giving myself a free pass when the laundry overwhelms the hamper, and making sure I take a little “me time” every day. I’m pretty introverted, so I have to have quiet time to recharge my batteries after a long day of working with customers and vendors, whether it’s taking a walk, going shopping solo, or watching reality TV in my bed at 6:30pm.

    I really think this move is going to be a wonderful thing for you! Best wishes and a big {{hug}}.

  11. So glad you’ve been able to move to a new home and find simplicity there. We just bought our dream home (as in, our very favorite in our town.) It’s just the right size, and every morning, I wake up, make the coffee and feel overwhelmingly grateful to live here. Somehow, that makes everything else I encounter during the day seem to lighten. Because, no matter what, I’m going back soon to my favorite place: home.

  12. I struggle a lot with impatience, specifically regarding buying a house for our future family. Househunters fuels this for sure! So as far as my house in the literal sense, it doesn’t feel like a vacation. BUT my state of mind while in said house can definitely get to vacation mode. Grilling out on the back porch with a glass of white wine. Snuggling on the couch watching big bang reruns. That’s my Tuesday night “vacation”. Kendi I wish you were my friend 🙂

  13. I am also a house hunters and a house hunters international fan…it’s addicting

    but we also make fun of it…people want to have a super nice fancy houses for a low price. But i like that farm house that needs renovation. You know? /i like the simplicity too and today’s world seems to try to complicate things to the point wear simplicity really is hard to find. I commend you on finding it. Keep on blogging girl! You are an inspiration!
    xoxo
    Birdy
    http://www.thetwirlteam.blogspot.com

  14. In dreaming of the future, we often miss the incredible moments of the present. I try not to do this. I reallllllly try not to think of how things “could” be. It’s a challenge for sure, but I don’t want to focus so much on what could be that i miss what IS. “What if someone thinks I’m not working hard?” Word, sista. I can relate to this so well! I remind myself though, that while it’s good to have a strong work ethic and it’s perfectly ok to have goals, giving myself time to breathe and soak in the simple, daily blessings is imperative if I hope to maintain my joy and my sanity. I’m so happy that you guys have a new place to start fresh in and that you’re recognizing the simple things around you. You’re amazing.

  15. I think you are a very wise woman.
    Now, I’m thinking about how I can create a home that feels like a vacation, because right now, it doesn’t.

    ~FringeGirl

  16. I absolutely love your blog. Everything about it. I’m so happy you found a place that completely suits you. You’re right–location is everything. My husband and I are still in our too-small house, 3 kids & 11 years later. But I can walk downtown and my husband can come home for lunch–both sanity savers. This house is my dream house in many important ways.

  17. We were getting ready to move to Alaska and we cleaned out our house of anything that we didn’t LOVE. I mean, LOOOOVE (it’s expensive to ship stuff and vehicles up there). Now there’s chance we may stay put and I thought I’d be really mad that we basically gave away almost everything for nothing, but instead it’s been very freeing. I also struggle with depression and perfectionism and sometimes get stuck in a trap of believing it’s the external stuff I surround myself with that’s going to make my life “perfect”.

    Jeez, sorry to write my own post on yours, but I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. And you should read Traffic:Why We Drive the Way We Do. It won’t eliminate your traffic anxiety but at least you’ll know what the jerkface that waited until the last second to merge was thinking. Ha!

  18. I have heard this over and over… these days it’s a luxury to live close to work 🙂

  19. This post was perfectly written, such a delight to read. I really don’t think it’s a smart thing to do, to wait so many years with such a stressful rotine, when you don’t have guarantees. You don’t know if you’re going to get some disease because the acumulation of the stress, you don’t know if you’re going to live until you have enough money to “live in paradise”. All we have is here and now, so why don’t we try to make the present a bit of a paradise? 🙂 Saving money it’s important, but a mini getaway vacation doesn’t have to be so fancy/expensive to be relaxing. I’m happy to know you’re enjoying more of your life now you guys moved! You’re definetely an inspiration to me (I wish we could be friends, haha). xo

  20. I really loved reading your thoughts…such a great reminder not to keep working harder and harder, rather to look around and find the simple joys in life. Thanks so much for sharing.

  21. this is so thoughtfully written! I can identify with so much of what you say…I’m sure we all can. So many days I get home from a long day of work and a long drive home, ready to complain to my husband about all the tiny little things that went wrong in my day. When really, I should step through the door and be grateful that I have a couple hours to putter in the garden with my husband. Just like walking home to get lunch, that tiny change of perspective and activity always refreshes me…no matter how much I resist it initially. In many ways, simplicity is a harder mindset to achieve everyday. I find that my natural tendency is to stress or worry; it is the easier option, but certainly not the most healthy.

    Thank you so much for continuing to open up to us, your devoted readers! It’s lovely and refreshing, just like you!

  22. You have such a way with words and I love when you write and share with us. I’m so happy for you. Sometimes I get stressed when I’m not going going going and busy. I don’t know how to sit still and relax. But I’m trying. I’m trying to find peace and happiness in small mundane moments. Those are the happiest moments.

  23. Beautifully written and wonderful thoughts. As complicated human beings, simplicity becomes much more appealing in such a chaotic world. I hope you will continue to seek the simple, because it will free you. It will be a comfort to you. Thank you for the reminder, Kendi.

    {heatheringheights.com}

  24. Thank you for sharing and collecting your thoughts into a coherent dialogue, you are fighting through this phase in your life with grace. I would still read your blog even if you only posted once a week. It’s QUALITY, not quantity and there is simplicity in that!

  25. I know I strive to have a more simpler life. And you’re totally right, no matte where you move you will have depression. It’s something that you have to deal with. Be patient and it will all come.

    Agi:)

    vodkainfusedlemonade.com

  26. I rarely comment but I just had to today to let you know how much I enjoyed this post! What a wonderful reminder for us all, thank you!

  27. Congrats on finding a life choice that works to help alleviate your depression. It’s good to remember that we can change things in our lives to accomodate what we really need, big ones or small ones

  28. I’ve been following your blog for sometime, I love your style and your recent candor made you so human, love that! This is my first time commenting and I just needed to let you know how much I enjoy your humor, savvy fashionastia sense and of course your new found approach to life.

  29. Reading this was like listening to my own mind musing about. I can’t tell you how similarly I have felt to what you described. I understand how light and relieving the simplest things can be when they give you respite from the other pressures that often work against your personal peace and contentment. They don’t have to be big changes necessarily, but you know them when you experience them. And I am SO happy you are starting to experience more and more of them. Kudos Kendi… for stepping bravely forward into a lighter and truer version of your happier reality; one which contains less stressors and more present joy and contentment 🙂

  30. Kendi, congrats first off on your new home. It’s wonderful to see how it’s already proving to add joy to your life. I wish you continued success in finding more simplicity and joy in your life. You’re a wonderfully brave lady to put your life out there for us all to read and join you, and it’s a pleasure to see it. Take comfort in the support you’ve earned from this community. Finding joy in our everyday lives is a challenge for everyone from time to time, but it seems that finding it in small things leads to finding it more and more. This post is certainly an example of that, and I hope your change of address continues to be a change in perspective that helps you find joy in many lovely little things in your life (be it a new space, a new skirt or anything else). Much love to you.

  31. Glad you guys are de-stressing because running a business is stressful enough! Glad your life is becoming simpler and more enjoying every minute of it!

    happymedley.blogspot.com

  32. I just discovered your blog a few days ago and I was thinking about how wonderful and perfect your life must be: a popular blog, a husband, a business owner, a home of your own, great clothes ;)…but this post reminded me that not everything is how it appears to be at first glance. Thank you for being open and honest with your readers. I respect you so much more this way, and you have just earned a new dedicated reader!

  33. Simple changes really can make the world of a difference on your mind, your outlook, and your brain chemistry (depression). Thank you for continuing to share with us how you are doing.

  34. I love this. I am inspired and humbled. Thanks for this post 🙂

    “The future is not some place we are going, but one we are creating. The paths are not to be found, but made. And the activity of making them changes both the maker and the destination.” (John H. Schaar)

    xo Ashley
    thetiniestfirecracker.com

  35. I just wanted to say that I’m in the midst of my struggle with anxiety and depression, and it’s awesome to read about your struggle (which sounds kind of terrible) because it makes me feel a bit less alone. So thank you!

  36. I began reading your blog my freshman year of college. I’m a senior now. I used to hop on your cite just for outfit ideas, but now I find myself returning to hear how your story is unfolding. No it’s not perfect, but who wants to read a perfect story anyways? Without conflict, there is no meaning! Without story a blog is like life on those exotic destinations–easy, redundant and anticlimactic. Congratulations on turning your blog into a story and thank you for letting us be a part of it.

  37. Love your post, love you!! Have for awhile now… you’re adorbs!!! Also, just wanted to let you know, House Hunters and HH Int’l is all a big scam – fun show to watch, but manufactured!! (I know – I was on it). So dream a good dream for your life right now, and definitely enjoy where you are at in life. Oh… and would love to see your dog!!!

  38. LOVE this. I am struggling with this too. I’m thinking about taking my career in a completely different direction – one that would be a little slower paced and a lot more fulfilling. But can I do it? Even though I know it would make me happy? WHY is this even a question? Thanks for your honesty on this issue. I just recently started reading your blog, but you definitely have a new admirer 🙂

  39. You’re so right, it’s all about simplicity! I’m a big believer in that and I don’t think running to a tropical island will solve that. (Plus, how hard would it be to maintain a fashion blog when you live on an isolated island somewhere?) Glad you took a step towards a simpler life. 🙂 I’ve also been thinking lately about how we never realize how good life is until it’s not as good… I was thinking about this in terms of weight (how I thought I needed to lose weight 5 years ago, now 20lbs heavier, my goal weight is what I was 5 years ago… huh?) Point being, I want to take note of all the good and just enjoy it, because maybe someday it won’t be this good… or maybe it will be better, which is awesome, but I don’t know that, so I need to make today as good as it can be! Also, I watch ridiculous amounts of HGTV. Sometimes I feel bad for Shawn, but then I remember how many sports update shows I have to watch, and then I don’t feel so bad.

  40. Somehow this post made me in tears. I’m happy for you and hope I could enjoy life just like you do now. Thank you for the beautiful writing

  41. Hi Kendi, for a long time, I was unhappy too. Due to some financial difficulties in my family, I was the sole breadwinner. At that time, my husband couldn’t find a job, we have a toddler and another baby on the way. I was unhappy because of all these issues. But truth be told, although we were in financial difficulties, somehow the support of my mother in law and father helped me to see the lighter side in life. I became more thankful for my everyday life, thankful for my children, my husband, our healths and even thankful for the air I breathe. And just like that, by being thankful in the midst of all the troubles, light began to shine in. I don’t know why I’m telling you all these but from what you’re battling now, the light has began shining in too. Hold onto each day with thankfulness and just enjoy each day as they come along. Troubles will always be there, we just have to know how to manage them better.

    All the best! 🙂

  42. You are such an incredibly inspiring person and I love how you have truly opened up on your blog.

  43. From the 50 comments already posted, its easy to see that you’re not alone in this. I am struggling with similar issues and it always helps to hear that simplifying things would make each day easier. Thank you for your honesty and for posting about your journey.

  44. This is beautiful, Kendi. I'm so glad you're enjoying your new home and working toward a simpler life. That has definitely been my goal lately. But as you know, it can be difficult to find simplicity when you're always trying to accomplish more and when you're always worrying what others think of you. Thank you for an eye opening post!

  45. Thank you for sharing Kendi. I too amidst the business and needing to feel productive (always it seems!) have felt the pull to make life more simple and to enjoy the little things . I am really excited for your move, it seems like it came at just the right time!

  46. I just went through something similar, with grad school. I thought I was striving for what I wanted, but all the stress and tears and melt downs that came along with the stress and hard (hard) work wasn’t worth it. I’ve always been someone who looks to the future, someone who can’t stand not knowing what’s going to happen. It’s hard to stay in the “now,” which we can all admit is so much simpler than worrying about the future. If I hadn’t gone through a crappy 8 months of grad school, I wouldn’t be the mom/wife/person that I am today. Struggles have a way of bringing out the worst to show us the best.

  47. So awesome. It's amazing what one simple (but also pretty big) change can do. Enjoy those lunches. You've inspired me to try and enjoy the little things too!

  48. Kendi, you are amazing, and I can’t tell you how much I look forward to reading your blog each day. While I dont own a business, I have always wanted my own shop, as you have, and somehow seem to live vicariously through you in reading your blog. As you know, we all truly appreciate your honesty but I hope you know just how much it resonates with your readers (and fans!) when you put it all out there. I think I long for simplicity as well and can totally relate to all that you speak about. While my crazy life involves 2 small kiddos and a husband who is gone a lot, I still long for things to be a little simpler. Thank you for giving us a glimpse into your daily life. You…and your style…rock!

  49. Thanks for Sharing! Glad you've been able to find gratitude for the small things in life. You've inspired me to do the same. Plus, I love house hunters too – and I could watch it for hours on end. Great minds, they think alike! 😉

    Megan
    budgetfashion101.blogspot.ca

  50. I love this message.

    Quick question – are you from the Hill Country? I’m a Hill Country girl and although I’ve lived in Dallas since 2004 (college and then law school), my heart belongs there. And although moving back isn’t feasible I love being able to go “home” and relax in all the peacefulness.

  51. congrats on the move! sometimes there's nothing better than sitting on the back porch with the one you love, it's perfect.

  52. yes, yes, yes. house hunters is a serious obsession of mine, but it drives me nuts when everyone talks about how long they waited. what if they never made it to that age? the time to be happy is right now, the time to go for it is right now. love this post more than the outfit posts! it's true. xo

  53. There is a great quote that a friend shared with me once when I was in the midst of a depression… "Where ever you go, there you are."

    I have often felt like moving away would solve all my problems and though. I think moving can help if you are in the completely wrong place for your spirit but for the most part it won't change much because depression lives inside of us, not out. So digging deep within ourselves to find ways to enjoy life where we are, as we are, is definitely a much better solution. 🙂

  54. I've always loved your blog, and now that you're sharing more of your thoughts and your life with us, I love it even more! Thanks again for your beautiful courage.

  55. What if my life is amazing? What if I become the person I dream of? What if.. I change someone's life just by being real? What if I'm an incredible mom? What if… powerful words… all a strong possibility… you are amazing.. and I fall asleep watching HGTV almost every night!

    Hope

    hchdesigns.blogspot.com

  56. This morning, Chad and I were driving to the shop together and we pulled through our favorite breakfast drive-thru to order the same thing we order every morning. Doak was in the backseat, and we chatted with the guy who takes our order. When we left the parking lot, I turned to Chad and said, "I feel so lucky. I'm so happy exactly we are right now."

    Three or four years ago, I wasn't sure I'd ever know how to feel happy again. I thought I'd lost it somehow. Reading about your experiences with depression and anxiety was like reading a page from my own story, Kendi. But as difficult as my darkest days were, I'm grateful for them; they remind me of what a blessing it is to just be at peace. Content. To not feel the invisible elephant on my chest, and to breathe without having to think about it.

    Simplicity has been my mantra for the last year or so. I had this overwhelming desire to pare down all the excess — from shopping, to work, and even blogging. Someone once told me to try and live by the 80/20 rule. If you can accomplish 80% of your to-do list by the time you clock out, you're doing well. Save the other 20% for tomorrow, when you can come back rested and with a fresh perspective.

    There are a few other things I've done to help achieve that elusive business/life balance. Like setting aside weekly time for my family and friends, sleeping a Sunday afternoon away without feeling guilty, giving myself a free pass when the laundry overwhelms the hamper, and making sure I take a little "me time" every day. I'm pretty introverted, so I have to have quiet time to recharge my batteries after a long day of working with customers and vendors, whether it's taking a walk, going shopping solo, or watching reality TV in my bed at 6:30pm.

    I really think this move is going to be a wonderful thing for you! Best wishes and a big {{hug}}.

  57. So glad you've been able to move to a new home and find simplicity there. We just bought our dream home (as in, our very favorite in our town.) It's just the right size, and every morning, I wake up, make the coffee and feel overwhelmingly grateful to live here. Somehow, that makes everything else I encounter during the day seem to lighten. Because, no matter what, I'm going back soon to my favorite place: home.

  58. I struggle a lot with impatience, specifically regarding buying a house for our future family. Househunters fuels this for sure! So as far as my house in the literal sense, it doesn't feel like a vacation. BUT my state of mind while in said house can definitely get to vacation mode. Grilling out on the back porch with a glass of white wine. Snuggling on the couch watching big bang reruns. That's my Tuesday night "vacation". Kendi I wish you were my friend 🙂

  59. I am also a house hunters and a house hunters international fan…it's addicting

    but we also make fun of it…people want to have a super nice fancy houses for a low price. But i like that farm house that needs renovation. You know? /i like the simplicity too and today's world seems to try to complicate things to the point wear simplicity really is hard to find. I commend you on finding it. Keep on blogging girl! You are an inspiration!
    xoxo
    Birdy
    http://www.thetwirlteam.blogspot.com

  60. In dreaming of the future, we often miss the incredible moments of the present. I try not to do this. I reallllllly try not to think of how things "could" be. It's a challenge for sure, but I don't want to focus so much on what could be that i miss what IS. "What if someone thinks I'm not working hard?" Word, sista. I can relate to this so well! I remind myself though, that while it's good to have a strong work ethic and it's perfectly ok to have goals, giving myself time to breathe and soak in the simple, daily blessings is imperative if I hope to maintain my joy and my sanity. I'm so happy that you guys have a new place to start fresh in and that you're recognizing the simple things around you. You're amazing.

  61. I think you are a very wise woman.
    Now, I'm thinking about how I can create a home that feels like a vacation, because right now, it doesn't.

    ~FringeGirl

  62. God you’re an awesome writer! I just moved 5 blocks from my work place. Best decision I’ve made in a long time. Those few extra minutes a day to yourself make all the difference.

    Colour Me Classic

  63. I absolutely love your blog. Everything about it. I'm so happy you found a place that completely suits you. You're right–location is everything. My husband and I are still in our too-small house, 3 kids & 11 years later. But I can walk downtown and my husband can come home for lunch–both sanity savers. This house is my dream house in many important ways.

  64. We were getting ready to move to Alaska and we cleaned out our house of anything that we didn't LOVE. I mean, LOOOOVE (it's expensive to ship stuff and vehicles up there). Now there's chance we may stay put and I thought I'd be really mad that we basically gave away almost everything for nothing, but instead it's been very freeing. I also struggle with depression and perfectionism and sometimes get stuck in a trap of believing it's the external stuff I surround myself with that's going to make my life "perfect".

    Jeez, sorry to write my own post on yours, but I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. And you should read Traffic:Why We Drive the Way We Do. It won't eliminate your traffic anxiety but at least you'll know what the jerkface that waited until the last second to merge was thinking. Ha!

  65. I have heard this over and over… these days it's a luxury to live close to work 🙂

  66. This post was perfectly written, such a delight to read. I really don't think it's a smart thing to do, to wait so many years with such a stressful rotine, when you don't have guarantees. You don't know if you're going to get some disease because the acumulation of the stress, you don't know if you're going to live until you have enough money to "live in paradise". All we have is here and now, so why don't we try to make the present a bit of a paradise? 🙂 Saving money it's important, but a mini getaway vacation doesn't have to be so fancy/expensive to be relaxing. I'm happy to know you're enjoying more of your life now you guys moved! You're definetely an inspiration to me (I wish we could be friends, haha). xo

  67. I really loved reading your thoughts…such a great reminder not to keep working harder and harder, rather to look around and find the simple joys in life. Thanks so much for sharing.

  68. And what a cute little town home it is! Great choice! I’ve always dreamed of walking to work, walking home, walking to the pharmacy. Miami is a very segregated city. Homes are in one area, businesses in another. Great neighborhoods are in one area, “bad” neighborhoods in another (I realize this is the case virtually everywhere). Venezuelans live in Doral, white Americans live in Coral Gables, Key Biscayne, and the Beach. Haitians live in Little Haiti. African Americans live in Overtown and a bunch of other “bad neighborhoods”. Cubans are pretty spread out, but they’re in their biggest numbers in Hialeah. We’re driven by car culture (literally). Your car is one of your most important status symbols and, worse than that, necessities. I hate having to get in my car to go places, being so far away from everyone and everything. You can just imagine how much fun our highways are. People are always talking about how great Miami is, and it really is, but in the “right” areas. Everywhere else you get the same sad picture you get in so many other places: overworked, underpaid, isolated, car dependent people. That’s just my take, anyway.

    But we’re a changing city, and I see improvement everywhere. We’re getting a little better everyday, despite all the gentrification that’s going on right now. I realize this is not where your post went, but it’s what came up for me as I read it, and I thought I should share it with you and anyone else you might read this. 🙂

  69. So inspiring Kendi girl! Simplicity is always a good comfort and gives peace to the soul. Glad your new place is helping you feel better.

    Cee. ♥
    Code Overdressed

  70. Nicely written Kendi! I think our culture has created a viscious cycle of being the best at everything we do and if we stop to enjoy life – we are slackers. I personally believe in a balanced life will lead to happiness.

    Alice
    http://www.happinessatmidlife.com

  71. this is so thoughtfully written! I can identify with so much of what you say…I'm sure we all can. So many days I get home from a long day of work and a long drive home, ready to complain to my husband about all the tiny little things that went wrong in my day. When really, I should step through the door and be grateful that I have a couple hours to putter in the garden with my husband. Just like walking home to get lunch, that tiny change of perspective and activity always refreshes me…no matter how much I resist it initially. In many ways, simplicity is a harder mindset to achieve everyday. I find that my natural tendency is to stress or worry; it is the easier option, but certainly not the most healthy.

    Thank you so much for continuing to open up to us, your devoted readers! It's lovely and refreshing, just like you!

  72. You have such a way with words and I love when you write and share with us. I'm so happy for you. Sometimes I get stressed when I'm not going going going and busy. I don't know how to sit still and relax. But I'm trying. I'm trying to find peace and happiness in small mundane moments. Those are the happiest moments.

  73. Beautifully written and wonderful thoughts. As complicated human beings, simplicity becomes much more appealing in such a chaotic world. I hope you will continue to seek the simple, because it will free you. It will be a comfort to you. Thank you for the reminder, Kendi.

    {heatheringheights.com}

  74. Thank you for sharing and collecting your thoughts into a coherent dialogue, you are fighting through this phase in your life with grace. I would still read your blog even if you only posted once a week. It's QUALITY, not quantity and there is simplicity in that!

  75. Such good thoughts. I can definitely relate to the anxiety… I’ve struggled with it myself. It’s so hard to not let every little thing take over. Definitely good to take a look at what we do have and appreciate that.

  76. Now that you’ve shared your struggle with depression, there’s a new depth to your posts. This is beautiful. Thanks or sharing.

  77. Reading this was like listening to my own mind musing about. I can't tell you how similarly I have felt to what you described. I understand how light and relieving the simplest things can be when they give you respite from the other pressures that often work against your personal peace and contentment. They don't have to be big changes necessarily, but you know them when you experience them. And I am SO happy you are starting to experience more and more of them. Kudos Kendi… for stepping bravely forward into a lighter and truer version of your happier reality; one which contains less stressors and more present joy and contentment 🙂

  78. I don’t know what you did before having the store but you’re a lovely writer. And I too can watch house hunters and house hunters international for hours and hours, endlessly.

  79. Kendi, congrats first off on your new home. It's wonderful to see how it's already proving to add joy to your life. I wish you continued success in finding more simplicity and joy in your life. You're a wonderfully brave lady to put your life out there for us all to read and join you, and it's a pleasure to see it. Take comfort in the support you've earned from this community. Finding joy in our everyday lives is a challenge for everyone from time to time, but it seems that finding it in small things leads to finding it more and more. This post is certainly an example of that, and I hope your change of address continues to be a change in perspective that helps you find joy in many lovely little things in your life (be it a new space, a new skirt or anything else). Much love to you.

  80. Glad you guys are de-stressing because running a business is stressful enough! Glad your life is becoming simpler and more enjoying every minute of it!

    happymedley.blogspot.com

  81. I just discovered your blog a few days ago and I was thinking about how wonderful and perfect your life must be: a popular blog, a husband, a business owner, a home of your own, great clothes ;)…but this post reminded me that not everything is how it appears to be at first glance. Thank you for being open and honest with your readers. I respect you so much more this way, and you have just earned a new dedicated reader!

  82. I just wanted to say that I'm in the midst of my struggle with anxiety and depression, and it's awesome to read about your struggle (which sounds kind of terrible) because it makes me feel a bit less alone. So thank you!

  83. I began reading your blog my freshman year of college. I'm a senior now. I used to hop on your cite just for outfit ideas, but now I find myself returning to hear how your story is unfolding. No it's not perfect, but who wants to read a perfect story anyways? Without conflict, there is no meaning! Without story a blog is like life on those exotic destinations–easy, redundant and anticlimactic. Congratulations on turning your blog into a story and thank you for letting us be a part of it.

  84. Love your post, love you!! Have for awhile now… you're adorbs!!! Also, just wanted to let you know, House Hunters and HH Int'l is all a big scam – fun show to watch, but manufactured!! (I know – I was on it). So dream a good dream for your life right now, and definitely enjoy where you are at in life. Oh… and would love to see your dog!!!

  85. Such a beautifully written post. It’s amazing how you can get a new perspective with just a few changes. I’m glad the move went well and you’re settling in and able to do everything you want to relax and enjoy each day 🙂

    Away From Blue

  86. LOVE this. I am struggling with this too. I'm thinking about taking my career in a completely different direction – one that would be a little slower paced and a lot more fulfilling. But can I do it? Even though I know it would make me happy? WHY is this even a question? Thanks for your honesty on this issue. I just recently started reading your blog, but you definitely have a new admirer 🙂

  87. You're so right, it's all about simplicity! I'm a big believer in that and I don't think running to a tropical island will solve that. (Plus, how hard would it be to maintain a fashion blog when you live on an isolated island somewhere?) Glad you took a step towards a simpler life. 🙂 I've also been thinking lately about how we never realize how good life is until it's not as good… I was thinking about this in terms of weight (how I thought I needed to lose weight 5 years ago, now 20lbs heavier, my goal weight is what I was 5 years ago… huh?) Point being, I want to take note of all the good and just enjoy it, because maybe someday it won't be this good… or maybe it will be better, which is awesome, but I don't know that, so I need to make today as good as it can be! Also, I watch ridiculous amounts of HGTV. Sometimes I feel bad for Shawn, but then I remember how many sports update shows I have to watch, and then I don't feel so bad.

  88. Somehow this post made me in tears. I'm happy for you and hope I could enjoy life just like you do now. Thank you for the beautiful writing

  89. Hi Kendi, for a long time, I was unhappy too. Due to some financial difficulties in my family, I was the sole breadwinner. At that time, my husband couldn't find a job, we have a toddler and another baby on the way. I was unhappy because of all these issues. But truth be told, although we were in financial difficulties, somehow the support of my mother in law and father helped me to see the lighter side in life. I became more thankful for my everyday life, thankful for my children, my husband, our healths and even thankful for the air I breathe. And just like that, by being thankful in the midst of all the troubles, light began to shine in. I don't know why I'm telling you all these but from what you're battling now, the light has began shining in too. Hold onto each day with thankfulness and just enjoy each day as they come along. Troubles will always be there, we just have to know how to manage them better.

    All the best! 🙂

  90. From the 50 comments already posted, its easy to see that you're not alone in this. I am struggling with similar issues and it always helps to hear that simplifying things would make each day easier. Thank you for your honesty and for posting about your journey.

  91. I just went through something similar, with grad school. I thought I was striving for what I wanted, but all the stress and tears and melt downs that came along with the stress and hard (hard) work wasn't worth it. I've always been someone who looks to the future, someone who can't stand not knowing what's going to happen. It's hard to stay in the "now," which we can all admit is so much simpler than worrying about the future. If I hadn't gone through a crappy 8 months of grad school, I wouldn't be the mom/wife/person that I am today. Struggles have a way of bringing out the worst to show us the best.

  92. Kendi, you are amazing, and I can't tell you how much I look forward to reading your blog each day. While I dont own a business, I have always wanted my own shop, as you have, and somehow seem to live vicariously through you in reading your blog. As you know, we all truly appreciate your honesty but I hope you know just how much it resonates with your readers (and fans!) when you put it all out there. I think I long for simplicity as well and can totally relate to all that you speak about. While my crazy life involves 2 small kiddos and a husband who is gone a lot, I still long for things to be a little simpler. Thank you for giving us a glimpse into your daily life. You…and your style…rock!

  93. I love this message.

    Quick question – are you from the Hill Country? I'm a Hill Country girl and although I've lived in Dallas since 2004 (college and then law school), my heart belongs there. And although moving back isn't feasible I love being able to go "home" and relax in all the peacefulness.

  94. I am about to kove to another island (in Greece), and start with my family almost from zero, but your words made me realise that yes, life is simple, we tend to complicate it most of the times!
    we would love to see some photos of your new house, sometime!

  95. God you're an awesome writer! I just moved 5 blocks from my work place. Best decision I've made in a long time. Those few extra minutes a day to yourself make all the difference.

    Colour Me Classic

  96. And what a cute little town home it is! Great choice! I've always dreamed of walking to work, walking home, walking to the pharmacy. Miami is a very segregated city. Homes are in one area, businesses in another. Great neighborhoods are in one area, "bad" neighborhoods in another (I realize this is the case virtually everywhere). Venezuelans live in Doral, white Americans live in Coral Gables, Key Biscayne, and the Beach. Haitians live in Little Haiti. African Americans live in Overtown and a bunch of other "bad neighborhoods". Cubans are pretty spread out, but they're in their biggest numbers in Hialeah. We're driven by car culture (literally). Your car is one of your most important status symbols and, worse than that, necessities. I hate having to get in my car to go places, being so far away from everyone and everything. You can just imagine how much fun our highways are. People are always talking about how great Miami is, and it really is, but in the "right" areas. Everywhere else you get the same sad picture you get in so many other places: overworked, underpaid, isolated, car dependent people. That's just my take, anyway.

    But we're a changing city, and I see improvement everywhere. We're getting a little better everyday, despite all the gentrification that's going on right now. I realize this is not where your post went, but it's what came up for me as I read it, and I thought I should share it with you and anyone else you might read this. 🙂

  97. So inspiring Kendi girl! Simplicity is always a good comfort and gives peace to the soul. Glad your new place is helping you feel better.

    Cee. ♥
    Code Overdressed

  98. Nicely written Kendi! I think our culture has created a viscious cycle of being the best at everything we do and if we stop to enjoy life – we are slackers. I personally believe in a balanced life will lead to happiness.

    Alice
    http://www.happinessatmidlife.com

  99. Such good thoughts. I can definitely relate to the anxiety… I've struggled with it myself. It's so hard to not let every little thing take over. Definitely good to take a look at what we do have and appreciate that.

  100. Now that you've shared your struggle with depression, there's a new depth to your posts. This is beautiful. Thanks or sharing.

  101. I don't know what you did before having the store but you're a lovely writer. And I too can watch house hunters and house hunters international for hours and hours, endlessly.

  102. Such a beautifully written post. It's amazing how you can get a new perspective with just a few changes. I'm glad the move went well and you're settling in and able to do everything you want to relax and enjoy each day 🙂

    Away From Blue

  103. This is a beautiful post Kendi. I struggle with this as well. Trying to be happy and finding that simple happy place. So many times the answer is right there in front of you but we just don’t allow ourselves to see it. Oh and I could watch House Hunters for days on end!

  104. So beautifully said Kendi! Something as little as being able to walk home for lunch can bring such joy and big difference to your lives. Sometimes people mistake simplicity for boring, but it’s far from it. There’s something to be said about a simple life. I’m happy for you that you’re able to embrace it. 🙂

    xo, Yi-chia
    Always Maylee

  105. Kendi, I love how much you’ve opened up and are sharing your thoughts and feelings on your blog. “Simplicity is light” – you nailed that one! So happy to hear that you’re savoring your new routine. Your outfits have been so lovely this week – I think our frame of mind is often reflected in our outfit choices. Wishing you all the best!

  106. I am about to kove to another island (in Greece), and start with my family almost from zero, but your words made me realise that yes, life is simple, we tend to complicate it most of the times!
    we would love to see some photos of your new house, sometime!

  107. Just like everyone else, this post was very inspiring and hits home. In addition to you blog, I read many others and some of those are about living a simpler life. I’ve found that some days I just have to take a deep breath and say, It’s okay if I don’t get it all done right now. It’s truly the little things like walking to work or for me it’s paying an extra $15 to order my groceries online and have them delivered to my house instead of spending 3 hours of my weekend at the grocery store! The simpler life is the happier one. Thanks for sharing! It reminded me that I need to focus on this!

  108. Kendi, this is beautiful! Make your home your sanctuary, your safe place. Fill it with only things you love and you’ll notice a much lighter heart as soon as you step across the threshold.

    I love that you can walk to and from work! What a dream!

  109. This post is so good. I am so happy for you and your new “digs.” I’m printing this off to read at our next Bible study where we are going to talk about our life struggles and claiming victory. I think we can all have victories in the struggle!

  110. This post is beautifully written, I feel the same way living in the ‘burbs outside of manhattan. Thank you for your honesty!

  111. Ugh, I’m so happy you’re sharing more “life” with us. I love it. Your quote is amazing and so pinnable. “I feel lucky to have struggled, honestly. Because of the struggle I can
    look around and see the story that is being written. It’s not a perfect
    story but it’s a good one.”

  112. Kendi, you nailed it.
    It’s not having it all or reaching that bright spot at the end of a long winding road. It’s enjoying the small things. Finding moments in your crazy day just to sigh and relax. Kicking your feet up with a cold bottle of Corona after a long hot day. *Or cold lemonade if that’s your thing*
    I have this spot I go to when everything gets too crazy for me. No matter what is going on, no matter how much I want to scream….it calms me instantly. It doesn’t cost a million dollars or it’s not half way across the world but it’s perfect to me. Ten minutes there with an iced latte or a hot chocolate if it’s cold and I am me again.
    We all need a place like that and it doesn’t have to cost a penny. Glad you found yours.

  113. Beautiful post, made me think of the last line of The Office: ““There’s a lot of beauty in ordinary things. Isn’t that kind of the point?”

  114. This is just wonderful. It’s great that you are sharing more of your life with us readers. And I am glad that you are finding some peace in your hectic life 🙂

  115. I love watching House Hunters too. I recently just bought a house and came to realize how unglamorous house hunting really is. They don’t show you that part on TV…but I still love watching it 🙂

  116. My 7-year old nephew is obsessed with watching that show. His dad is moving into a new condo in a couple weeks, and asked his 2 boys if they were cool with having separate bedrooms now. My nephew replied that he would only agree to it if he got the master bedroom! Oh, and I guess he now gives his mother shit CONSTANTLY over her need to get rid of their popcorn ceiling! He’s already a home design snob, and it makes my heart swell a little. 🙂

    I’m glad to hear that moving closer to work is helping you find times to relax that you didn’t have before. I have an untraditional work schedule (college teachers always do), so I try to make sure I can come home for lunch every day. It’s my one demand with my work schedule, because it’s the only time of day I can chill out alone and decompress before heading out to more classes!

    Hang in there…and have fun decorating your new home!

  117. Great post Kendi, thanks! I too can’t stop watching HGTV and now that i’m a stay at home mom I’ve been realizing how I really need to currate the things in my home to make it a place that I enjoy being all day every day – a couple weeks ago I read from the Cupcakes and Cashmere blog that a home should be “clean, comfortable, and calming” and it really struck a cord with me and since then I have been determined to keep that a a matra for my home as well.

  118. Everyone’s simple is different and it sounds like you have found your version. It sounds wonderful, actually, to walk to work and walk back home. You’ve snubbed the rat race a little bit, and that’s always empowering! I’m so happy for you. 🙂

  119. wow…thank you for this post today. I definitely needed to read this today. I too am struggling writing my own story due to a dead end job that I am too scared to leave. I hope I can find your courage to do something that I love and not have someone else write my story for me (my boss). You are an inspiration…thank you.

  120. Love this post. Congratulations on the move, I’m so happy for you and your husband! Thank you for the reminder to slow down and simplify 🙂

  121. Kendi, I read your blog often but just had to comment on this post. I have been going through the same thing recently–moving to a new place, feeling that my life is inferior, nearly-crippling anxiety–and I have been trying to focus on what my life can offer me and to let the little things make me happy. I think your post gave me the boost that I needed. So, thank you. It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one struggling with trying to lead a simpler, more grateful life. It’s so easy to think that other people’s lives are made up of only the parts they show to the world, and realizing that that’s not the case can definitely put things in perspective.

  122. Congrats on the move! Good for you on being able to recognize the shifts in your life…many people can’t do this! I am currently going through big changes that feel like a struggle so reading you blog brings a positive light to me situation!

    My HGTV guilty pleasure is Property Brothers 🙂

    http://stylishadventures-al.com

  123. Thank You, Kendi. SO uplifting. I’ve always felt like I’m “waiting” for happiness. After reading this, no more waiting, I say!

  124. oh man, i’ve felt this same pull and struggle so many times. i’m thinking it’s always going to be a pull because once i finally get that vacation feeling, it becomes not enough and wie strive for something more. but darn it if i’m not going to try for it, if i’m not going to learn to be content in whatever circumstance. i’m pretty sure that’s the secret to life.

  125. When I read the title to this post, I immediately thought of the show Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie had (The Simple Life). Not sure what that says about me or why I just admitted that…?

    My husband and I recently moved and I can now walk to work, so I know what a difference that can make in your life. Sometimes just getting outside and spending a few minutes in the sun can really uplift your spirits!

    Congratulations on your new home 🙂

  126. This is a beautiful post Kendi. I struggle with this as well. Trying to be happy and finding that simple happy place. So many times the answer is right there in front of you but we just don't allow ourselves to see it. Oh and I could watch House Hunters for days on end!

  127. Beautiful. I, too, am thankful for the struggles I’ve been through. It’s a much nicer perspective than “why me?” I’ve spent far too many days comparing my life to other’s but I’ve learned that if I REALLY wanted their life, I’d be living it and not mine. I wouldn’t give up my life for anything. Even if it’s not as shiny & pretty as someone makes theirs out to be.

    I’m loving this new side of Kendi Everyday. Thanks for sharing with us & congrats on your new place.

  128. You are so real… its refreshing! I so much enjoy the fashion and style of your daily posts.You are beautiful on the inside and out! Having a home that is an oasis is my key to happiness.

  129. I’m so glad to read this post. It comes at such a perfect time in my life. I too live a stressful life due to my profession (graduate student in some hardcore science) and I recently have been dreaming about how easy everything would be if we just moved to a Caribbean island (my choice was Aruba) and just let everything go. Your insight into your own situation is really helping me work through mine. It’s not always about the physical escape; as corny as this sounds, finding joy and relaxation in the simple things is just as good a reward as going on a lifelong “vacation”. So thanks for this post and helping me realize a little more that I don’t need to run away, I just need to live in the moment and enjoy what sources of happiness I have around me.

  130. So beautifully said Kendi! Something as little as being able to walk home for lunch can bring such joy and big difference to your lives. Sometimes people mistake simplicity for boring, but it's far from it. There's something to be said about a simple life. I'm happy for you that you're able to embrace it. 🙂

    xo, Yi-chia
    Always Maylee

  131. Kendi, I love how much you've opened up and are sharing your thoughts and feelings on your blog. "Simplicity is light" – you nailed that one! So happy to hear that you're savoring your new routine. Your outfits have been so lovely this week – I think our frame of mind is often reflected in our outfit choices. Wishing you all the best!

  132. I had a very similar conversation with my fiancé last night. We both own out own businesses and its incredibly stressful! I constantly worry that I’m not working hard enough, or that someone might think that about me. As such, we have forgone taking a day off in months. Our fear of slowing down — or even stopping working for just a moment — is so crippling, that we have found that we’d rather run ourselves into the ground. This mentality has really soured our lives, and often given me extreme anxiety.

    You’re right. We do need to stop and enjoy the simple things. I’m so glad you’ve found your little slice of paradise. Best of luck to you in everything! Congrats on your new home.

    http://www.annikadotbenitz.com

  133. I feel like we are always on the same path when you write honest posts like this Kendi. Good for you and your family. Simplicity is wonderful!

  134. Thanks for this post, Kendi! I really needed to hear this today. My husband and I recently moved from a big city to a small town and instead of focusing on the negatives, I need to embrace the simplicity of our new life. No more hour long commutes and being stuck in traffic means more time to spend with my family. Because life isn’t about things or places, it’s about relationships. And the more time you have to cultivate those relationships, the happier you’ll be… no matter where you are 🙂

  135. Just like everyone else, this post was very inspiring and hits home. In addition to you blog, I read many others and some of those are about living a simpler life. I've found that some days I just have to take a deep breath and say, It's okay if I don't get it all done right now. It's truly the little things like walking to work or for me it's paying an extra $15 to order my groceries online and have them delivered to my house instead of spending 3 hours of my weekend at the grocery store! The simpler life is the happier one. Thanks for sharing! It reminded me that I need to focus on this!

  136. Enjoying life's simple pleasures is always a good thing – keep stepping out into the sunshine 🙂

  137. Kendi, I have enjoyed reading your blog since I came across it last year, but I have to say that I have loved all your recent posts. They are so heartfelt and real, and they speak to me in a way that I haven’t found on other blogs. Thanks for putting yourself out there. I will definitely keep coming back to visit.

  138. Kendi, this is beautiful! Make your home your sanctuary, your safe place. Fill it with only things you love and you'll notice a much lighter heart as soon as you step across the threshold.

    I love that you can walk to and from work! What a dream!

  139. I’m so happy for you ! I think that to be able to appreciate and be happy for what we have it the key to happiness ! It’s okay to want more, but as long as it doesn’t get in the way.

  140. Love this! Congrats on your new home and being able to literally stop and smell the flowers everyday.

    I hope this isn’t creepy, you are basically living my dream life. Living and working in Downtown McKinney, I have been dreaming of this for the last 5 years since I visited the Oktoberfest. Everyone was so nice and laid back, it was a big contrast coming from a small suburb, to Dallas, to large suburban area and working a corporate job with a long commute.

    Working towards my dream is a process, but definitely an appreciated learning experience. This post is so inspiring to read and it even got me to stop for minute and appreciate the positives in my life and career now.

    Also, a MINT HOUSE?!

  141. Simple things in life are really the most important things! loved reading this post and, like you, I have found HGTV a regular series on my tv.

    Classy Chic & Chardonnay
    http://ceislin.com

  142. This post is so good. I am so happy for you and your new "digs." I'm printing this off to read at our next Bible study where we are going to talk about our life struggles and claiming victory. I think we can all have victories in the struggle!

  143. This post is beautifully written, I feel the same way living in the 'burbs outside of manhattan. Thank you for your honesty!

  144. Ugh, I'm so happy you're sharing more "life" with us. I love it. Your quote is amazing and so pinnable. "I feel lucky to have struggled, honestly. Because of the struggle I can
    look around and see the story that is being written. It's not a perfect
    story but it's a good one."

  145. Kendi, you nailed it.
    It's not having it all or reaching that bright spot at the end of a long winding road. It's enjoying the small things. Finding moments in your crazy day just to sigh and relax. Kicking your feet up with a cold bottle of Corona after a long hot day. *Or cold lemonade if that's your thing*
    I have this spot I go to when everything gets too crazy for me. No matter what is going on, no matter how much I want to scream….it calms me instantly. It doesn't cost a million dollars or it's not half way across the world but it's perfect to me. Ten minutes there with an iced latte or a hot chocolate if it's cold and I am me again.
    We all need a place like that and it doesn't have to cost a penny. Glad you found yours.

  146. This is a great idea, and something that I hope to be able to do in my own life. I love reading your reflections. I enjoy them at least as much as your outfits!

  147. Beautiful post, made me think of the last line of The Office: "“There’s a lot of beauty in ordinary things. Isn’t that kind of the point?”

  148. This is just wonderful. It's great that you are sharing more of your life with us readers. And I am glad that you are finding some peace in your hectic life 🙂

  149. I love watching House Hunters too. I recently just bought a house and came to realize how unglamorous house hunting really is. They don't show you that part on TV…but I still love watching it 🙂

  150. My 7-year old nephew is obsessed with watching that show. His dad is moving into a new condo in a couple weeks, and asked his 2 boys if they were cool with having separate bedrooms now. My nephew replied that he would only agree to it if he got the master bedroom! Oh, and I guess he now gives his mother shit CONSTANTLY over her need to get rid of their popcorn ceiling! He's already a home design snob, and it makes my heart swell a little. 🙂

    I'm glad to hear that moving closer to work is helping you find times to relax that you didn't have before. I have an untraditional work schedule (college teachers always do), so I try to make sure I can come home for lunch every day. It's my one demand with my work schedule, because it's the only time of day I can chill out alone and decompress before heading out to more classes!

    Hang in there…and have fun decorating your new home!

  151. We love HGTV too lately! Such a sweet and poignant post Kendi, it sounds like moving was the perfect decision for your family. Wishing you all the best!

    xoxo,
    Chelsea & The City

  152. Great post Kendi, thanks! I too can't stop watching HGTV and now that i'm a stay at home mom I've been realizing how I really need to currate the things in my home to make it a place that I enjoy being all day every day – a couple weeks ago I read from the Cupcakes and Cashmere blog that a home should be "clean, comfortable, and calming" and it really struck a cord with me and since then I have been determined to keep that a a matra for my home as well.

  153. Everyone's simple is different and it sounds like you have found your version. It sounds wonderful, actually, to walk to work and walk back home. You've snubbed the rat race a little bit, and that's always empowering! I'm so happy for you. 🙂

  154. wow…thank you for this post today. I definitely needed to read this today. I too am struggling writing my own story due to a dead end job that I am too scared to leave. I hope I can find your courage to do something that I love and not have someone else write my story for me (my boss). You are an inspiration…thank you.

  155. Love this post. Congratulations on the move, I'm so happy for you and your husband! Thank you for the reminder to slow down and simplify 🙂

  156. Kendi, I read your blog often but just had to comment on this post. I have been going through the same thing recently–moving to a new place, feeling that my life is inferior, nearly-crippling anxiety–and I have been trying to focus on what my life can offer me and to let the little things make me happy. I think your post gave me the boost that I needed. So, thank you. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one struggling with trying to lead a simpler, more grateful life. It's so easy to think that other people's lives are made up of only the parts they show to the world, and realizing that that's not the case can definitely put things in perspective.

  157. Congrats on the move! Good for you on being able to recognize the shifts in your life…many people can't do this! I am currently going through big changes that feel like a struggle so reading you blog brings a positive light to me situation!

    My HGTV guilty pleasure is Property Brothers 🙂

    http://stylishadventures-al.com

  158. Thank You, Kendi. SO uplifting. I've always felt like I'm "waiting" for happiness. After reading this, no more waiting, I say!

  159. Such beautiful words and amazing perspective. I’m rooting so hard for you guys, and I’m happy for you! Congrats on the new digs! xo

  160. oh man, i've felt this same pull and struggle so many times. i'm thinking it's always going to be a pull because once i finally get that vacation feeling, it becomes not enough and wie strive for something more. but darn it if i'm not going to try for it, if i'm not going to learn to be content in whatever circumstance. i'm pretty sure that's the secret to life.

  161. When I read the title to this post, I immediately thought of the show Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie had (The Simple Life). Not sure what that says about me or why I just admitted that…?

    My husband and I recently moved and I can now walk to work, so I know what a difference that can make in your life. Sometimes just getting outside and spending a few minutes in the sun can really uplift your spirits!

    Congratulations on your new home 🙂

  162. What a great little post. I love this! Very inspirational. I totally watch house hunters and wish I too was moving to Aruba to an amazing beachfront home. But I love the idea of loving your home so much it’s as if you’re on vacation always. Nice to see you are starting to feel a bit better. xo

  163. I loved this post. I have been feeling a little bit of discontent with my life lately and this post made my week 🙂 thanks so much for your honesty.

  164. Beautiful. I, too, am thankful for the struggles I've been through. It's a much nicer perspective than "why me?" I've spent far too many days comparing my life to other's but I've learned that if I REALLY wanted their life, I'd be living it and not mine. I wouldn't give up my life for anything. Even if it's not as shiny & pretty as someone makes theirs out to be.

    I'm loving this new side of Kendi Everyday. Thanks for sharing with us & congrats on your new place.

  165. You are so real… its refreshing! I so much enjoy the fashion and style of your daily posts.You are beautiful on the inside and out! Having a home that is an oasis is my key to happiness.

  166. I'm so glad to read this post. It comes at such a perfect time in my life. I too live a stressful life due to my profession (graduate student in some hardcore science) and I recently have been dreaming about how easy everything would be if we just moved to a Caribbean island (my choice was Aruba) and just let everything go. Your insight into your own situation is really helping me work through mine. It's not always about the physical escape; as corny as this sounds, finding joy and relaxation in the simple things is just as good a reward as going on a lifelong "vacation". So thanks for this post and helping me realize a little more that I don't need to run away, I just need to live in the moment and enjoy what sources of happiness I have around me.

  167. Well said! This post definitely made me think about how happy I am with the simple things in my life, and I know I will keep thinking about how to make it simpler too. Thank you so much for sharing Kendi, as always.

    PS: I love house hunters too!

  168. Love the insight to making paradise where you are….thanks for being so real!

  169. Your words are so beautiful, Kendi! I love reading about your struggle and your new perspective. It rings true to me (and I’m sure so many other readers). Thanks for sharing!!!

  170. My fiance and and I are moving in (hopefully) a week and it has been incredibly stressful, especially since we still don’t know an exact closing date! But knowing that a beautiful house in the perfect location is waiting for us makes it all a little bit better.

    Also, when House Hunters is making you question life, just remember – it’s scripted!

  171. I had a very similar conversation with my fiancé last night. We both own out own businesses and its incredibly stressful! I constantly worry that I'm not working hard enough, or that someone might think that about me. As such, we have forgone taking a day off in months. Our fear of slowing down — or even stopping working for just a moment — is so crippling, that we have found that we'd rather run ourselves into the ground. This mentality has really soured our lives, and often given me extreme anxiety.

    You're right. We do need to stop and enjoy the simple things. I'm so glad you've found your little slice of paradise. Best of luck to you in everything! Congrats on your new home.

    http://www.annikadotbenitz.com

  172. I feel like we are always on the same path when you write honest posts like this Kendi. Good for you and your family. Simplicity is wonderful!

  173. Thanks for this post, Kendi! I really needed to hear this today. My husband and I recently moved from a big city to a small town and instead of focusing on the negatives, I need to embrace the simplicity of our new life. No more hour long commutes and being stuck in traffic means more time to spend with my family. Because life isn't about things or places, it's about relationships. And the more time you have to cultivate those relationships, the happier you'll be… no matter where you are 🙂

  174. Kendi, I so appreciate these personal stories on what looks from the outside to be simply (!) a fashion blog. I too struggle with depression, and maybe it’s a life-stage thing (I’m in my mid-30’s) but I’m just now figuring out how to simplify. How to just do the things I love to do, and how nourishing that can be. How to accept more, and let go of anxiety as much as possible. Good luck to you, and thanks again.

  175. Kendi, I have enjoyed reading your blog since I came across it last year, but I have to say that I have loved all your recent posts. They are so heartfelt and real, and they speak to me in a way that I haven't found on other blogs. Thanks for putting yourself out there. I will definitely keep coming back to visit.

  176. I'm so happy for you ! I think that to be able to appreciate and be happy for what we have it the key to happiness ! It's okay to want more, but as long as it doesn't get in the way.

  177. Love this! Congrats on your new home and being able to literally stop and smell the flowers everyday.

    I hope this isn't creepy, you are basically living my dream life. Living and working in Downtown McKinney, I have been dreaming of this for the last 5 years since I visited the Oktoberfest. Everyone was so nice and laid back, it was a big contrast coming from a small suburb, to Dallas, to large suburban area and working a corporate job with a long commute.

    Working towards my dream is a process, but definitely an appreciated learning experience. This post is so inspiring to read and it even got me to stop for minute and appreciate the positives in my life and career now.

    Also, a MINT HOUSE?!

  178. Oh Kendi, once again I feel so connected with you. I have been home recovering from a routine surgery. So much time to think and watch House Hunters all day. I have already decided I am tired of living life stressed. I am ready to move to St John (my favorite House Hunters International episode so far). I do feel blessed to have a wonderful hubby and child,, but I know I need a change. St John is so not in the budget (hopefully one day), but living life doing what you love is attainable. I have a career that everyone says, wow, you get to do what you love, but they have no idea of the struggle inside. I am tired. I think it’s time to go back to school, start over, and do something that I feel gives me a better purpose. I think I may be having a mid life crisis at the age of 41, but I am excited to start over and have a career that I actually truly love. Life is too short. By the way, I really am coming to meet you. We are neighbors. Don’t think I’m a crazy lady when I insist on giving you a hug. 🙂 Oh, and I won’t be able to afford anything in your shop since I am about to be a full time student with no job. Lol. I am super jealous you get to walk to work with your hubby everyday. That is how I envision living in St. John.

  179. I can totally relate to this post. Starting on the first of the year I have been trying to let go of stress, things that don’t matter and cut out toxic people. To live simply and happy and 6 months in, I am loving it. Best decision ever.

  180. Such beautiful words and amazing perspective. I'm rooting so hard for you guys, and I'm happy for you! Congrats on the new digs! xo

  181. What a great little post. I love this! Very inspirational. I totally watch house hunters and wish I too was moving to Aruba to an amazing beachfront home. But I love the idea of loving your home so much it's as if you're on vacation always. Nice to see you are starting to feel a bit better. xo

  182. I loved this post. I have been feeling a little bit of discontent with my life lately and this post made my week 🙂 thanks so much for your honesty.

  183. Well said! This post definitely made me think about how happy I am with the simple things in my life, and I know I will keep thinking about how to make it simpler too. Thank you so much for sharing Kendi, as always.

    PS: I love house hunters too!

  184. Your words are so beautiful, Kendi! I love reading about your struggle and your new perspective. It rings true to me (and I'm sure so many other readers). Thanks for sharing!!!

  185. My fiance and and I are moving in (hopefully) a week and it has been incredibly stressful, especially since we still don't know an exact closing date! But knowing that a beautiful house in the perfect location is waiting for us makes it all a little bit better.

    Also, when House Hunters is making you question life, just remember – it's scripted!

  186. Kendi, I so appreciate these personal stories on what looks from the outside to be simply (!) a fashion blog. I too struggle with depression, and maybe it's a life-stage thing (I'm in my mid-30's) but I'm just now figuring out how to simplify. How to just do the things I love to do, and how nourishing that can be. How to accept more, and let go of anxiety as much as possible. Good luck to you, and thanks again.

  187. Oh Kendi, once again I feel so connected with you. I have been home recovering from a routine surgery. So much time to think and watch House Hunters all day. I have already decided I am tired of living life stressed. I am ready to move to St John (my favorite House Hunters International episode so far). I do feel blessed to have a wonderful hubby and child,, but I know I need a change. St John is so not in the budget (hopefully one day), but living life doing what you love is attainable. I have a career that everyone says, wow, you get to do what you love, but they have no idea of the struggle inside. I am tired. I think it's time to go back to school, start over, and do something that I feel gives me a better purpose. I think I may be having a mid life crisis at the age of 41, but I am excited to start over and have a career that I actually truly love. Life is too short. By the way, I really am coming to meet you. We are neighbors. Don't think I'm a crazy lady when I insist on giving you a hug. 🙂 Oh, and I won't be able to afford anything in your shop since I am about to be a full time student with no job. Lol. I am super jealous you get to walk to work with your hubby everyday. That is how I envision living in St. John.

  188. I can totally relate to this post. Starting on the first of the year I have been trying to let go of stress, things that don't matter and cut out toxic people. To live simply and happy and 6 months in, I am loving it. Best decision ever.

  189. This is wonderful. Simplicity is relaxing and soothing, and I’ve learned a bit of that over the last few months. I can’t imagine how amazing it feels to walk 3 blocks to work. You’re able to still live your life in some of your spare time and not spend it commuting.

  190. As someone who has struggled with depression and anxiety, I understand your words and thoughts. I watch HH too, I can watch it all day and sometimes do. I still feel that I am torn between wanting a simple life and wanting it all– maybe they are one in the same? I don’t know, thanks for sharing a bit into your world. I aspire to be you Kendi, from the store, to the outfits to the great writing. I love reading your blog.

  191. I love this outlook. Appreciate what is and simplify where you can. Good luck to you. Enjoy the sunshine!

  192. This is wonderful. Simplicity is relaxing and soothing, and I've learned a bit of that over the last few months. I can't imagine how amazing it feels to walk 3 blocks to work. You're able to still live your life in some of your spare time and not spend it commuting.

  193. This made me tear up. My family and I too are in the process of trying to simplify our life with a move. Here’s hoping we are successful! Best wishes to you.

  194. As someone who has struggled with depression and anxiety, I understand your words and thoughts. I watch HH too, I can watch it all day and sometimes do. I still feel that I am torn between wanting a simple life and wanting it all– maybe they are one in the same? I don't know, thanks for sharing a bit into your world. I aspire to be you Kendi, from the store, to the outfits to the great writing. I love reading your blog.

  195. This made me tear up. My family and I too are in the process of trying to simplify our life with a move. Here's hoping we are successful! Best wishes to you.

  196. What a beautiful post, Kendi! You are so wise. This really encouraged me at the start of the week.. and no matter what people think, you are a hard worker. 🙂 Be at peace and be good to yourself!

  197. Thank you for this. I needed to hear this. Life really is what you make it.

  198. What a beautiful post, Kendi! You are so wise. This really encouraged me at the start of the week.. and no matter what people think, you are a hard worker. 🙂 Be at peace and be good to yourself!

  199. It’s a tad difficult to express this over the internet, but here it goes: Kendi, I love you.
    I have been viewing your blog for almost two years, often envying you for your impeccable style, beauty, and success. The giant step you took in sharing with the world your innermost fears and personal battles is so inspiring. Somehow I hadn’t realized before how truly talented, hardworking, and real of a person you were.
    In all of your smiling photos, it was easy to just assume you were a lucky girl who had been given everything, and thus it was easy to be jealous of you. But after you shared your true struggle, I feel not jealousy but admiration, I know that you must have worked your tail off to get yourself to where you are today!
    Thanks so much for being honest. I feel like you have put your soul into writing some of your recent posts, including this one, and that’s why I, a stranger with a kindred soul, can say that I love you.

  200. It's a tad difficult to express this over the internet, but here it goes: Kendi, I love you.
    I have been viewing your blog for almost two years, often envying you for your impeccable style, beauty, and success. The giant step you took in sharing with the world your innermost fears and personal battles is so inspiring. Somehow I hadn't realized before how truly talented, hardworking, and real of a person you were.
    In all of your smiling photos, it was easy to just assume you were a lucky girl who had been given everything, and thus it was easy to be jealous of you. But after you shared your true struggle, I feel not jealousy but admiration, I know that you must have worked your tail off to get yourself to where you are today!
    Thanks so much for being honest. I feel like you have put your soul into writing some of your recent posts, including this one, and that's why I, a stranger with a kindred soul, can say that I love you.

  201. I connect with you on so many levels (not just a mutual love to House Hunters), and I know that desire for simplicity. I recently wrote about my break through with my depression and how I am able to simply enjoy life again. I hope that this move brings that joy for you that you are hoping for. All the best!

  202. I connect with you on so many levels (not just a mutual love to House Hunters), and I know that desire for simplicity. I recently wrote about my break through with my depression and how I am able to simply enjoy life again. I hope that this move brings that joy for you that you are hoping for. All the best!

  203. So true.
    We live in 500 square feet and walk to work, and I couldn’t be happier.
    Don’t you love it when somebody on House Hunters wants a five-bedroom house for them and their one kid and it has to be “green”?

  204. I have been a huge fan of your blog for the longest time but found that this post especially struck a chord in me. There is a great fear I believe in having a simple life because of what other people will think and it is something I definitely think about as well. From this post I feel greatly inspired to find more value in life’s little moments and live a less stressful life. Thanks for sharing!

  205. “What if there was joy in a full day’s work and not worry in the work that’s waiting for tomorrow?”

    Thank you for articulating that one – as a PhD student a year out from my last battle with anxiety and depression, that phrase is so refocusing. Best wishes for you on your way back from darker times, it can definitely be done and the working on yourself that happens during the process is so very valuable. Thanks! 🙂

  206. So true.
    We live in 500 square feet and walk to work, and I couldn't be happier.
    Don't you love it when somebody on House Hunters wants a five-bedroom house for them and their one kid and it has to be "green"?

  207. I have been a huge fan of your blog for the longest time but found that this post especially struck a chord in me. There is a great fear I believe in having a simple life because of what other people will think and it is something I definitely think about as well. From this post I feel greatly inspired to find more value in life's little moments and live a less stressful life. Thanks for sharing!

  208. "What if there was joy in a full day's work and not worry in the work that's waiting for tomorrow?"

    Thank you for articulating that one – as a PhD student a year out from my last battle with anxiety and depression, that phrase is so refocusing. Best wishes for you on your way back from darker times, it can definitely be done and the working on yourself that happens during the process is so very valuable. Thanks! 🙂

  209. You struck many chords. Brava for being true to yourself, for living simply with your eye on real happiness. You’re a peaceful warrior.

  210. Kendi, this was such a heartfelt post. I can relate to the things you mentioned and just wanted to let you know that the Lord has good things for those that seek Him. You don't have to live with depression. Jesus died so you could be free from everything that makes you captive! God bless you!

    "Be
    anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with
    thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7 NIV

  211. You struck many chords. Brava for being true to yourself, for living simply with your eye on real happiness. You're a peaceful warrior.

  212. I know I’m a few days late to this post, but my husband and I stayed up until 2 a.m. talking about the fear of simplicity, the fear of really pursuing what we want to be doing, so this post was very much in line with all of that.

  213. I know I'm a few days late to this post, but my husband and I stayed up until 2 a.m. talking about the fear of simplicity, the fear of really pursuing what we want to be doing, so this post was very much in line with all of that.

  214. I’m not sure if this is my first time leaving a comment (maybe it is) but, reading you for so long (and absolutely loving your sense of humor), for the first time i really feel like i have to drop you a line. just to say hi from across the ocean (from Portugal, Europe), just to tell you how much you made me smile with this post. I’m also on a path to make my life more simple, less stressful, more enjoyable. Because life can be all that, and I absolutely agree with every single word you wrote.

    🙂

    Rita

    http://www.showmepretty.com

  215. I'm not sure if this is my first time leaving a comment (maybe it is) but, reading you for so long (and absolutely loving your sense of humor), for the first time i really feel like i have to drop you a line. just to say hi from across the ocean (from Portugal, Europe), just to tell you how much you made me smile with this post. I'm also on a path to make my life more simple, less stressful, more enjoyable. Because life can be all that, and I absolutely agree with every single word you wrote.

    🙂

    Rita

    http://www.showmepretty.com

  216. of course i agree with with you as much as i can. simplicity is the key that is already making my life easy (and happy).
    i found you because of Rita from Portugal and it was a good way of starting my day. thank you! 🙂

  217. of course i agree with with you as much as i can. simplicity is the key that is already making my life easy (and happy).
    i found you because of Rita from Portugal and it was a good way of starting my day. thank you! 🙂

  218. I like this new real-life view of Kendi. =) And I don’t mind that there’s no outfit in this post.

  219. I like this new real-life view of Kendi. =) And I don't mind that there's no outfit in this post.

  220. thanks for such an inspiring post. you got me thinking that simplicity is worth fighting for. it’s worth the work to get through all the expectations and distractions. thanks Kendi!

  221. thanks for such an inspiring post. you got me thinking that simplicity is worth fighting for. it's worth the work to get through all the expectations and distractions. thanks Kendi!

  222. Oh yeah, I needed to read this post today! Just last night, I came home to my fiance and immediately got frustrated with the mess, the bills, etc. etc. etc. My job is incredibly stressful and I’m not usually happy, but I’m taking steps toward my dream career. Instead of taking a second to step back and breathe, I caved to my frustrations and just let loose. I was taking my emotions out on him, passively, rather than communicating what was wrong. Why?! This post is like a breath of fresh air… calm down, be grateful, life is great – is what this post taught me 🙂

  223. Oh yeah, I needed to read this post today! Just last night, I came home to my fiance and immediately got frustrated with the mess, the bills, etc. etc. etc. My job is incredibly stressful and I'm not usually happy, but I'm taking steps toward my dream career. Instead of taking a second to step back and breathe, I caved to my frustrations and just let loose. I was taking my emotions out on him, passively, rather than communicating what was wrong. Why?! This post is like a breath of fresh air… calm down, be grateful, life is great – is what this post taught me 🙂

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  225. Watch 'the cove' or at least the cove psa on YouTube and then you will know bette r than to want to swim with dolphins.

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