As it turned 10 pm on New Year’s Eve, my friend’s husband turned to our group of friends and asked everyone ‘what’s your new year’s resolution?’ I drew a blank. I hadn’t really thought about it until that moment. Then I started internally freaking out. I always have a resolution. ALWAYS. Why did I not have one this year? Had I given up? Is this the end of my ambition??
Then I realized that maybe I’m just content with where I’m at in my life. And that’s not a bad thing at all. I’m happy with my career, I’m happy with the shop and my blog. I mean sure in the realm of new year’s resolutions I feel like I could always eat healthier, work out more, etc. (More on this later this week.) But overall I’m happy with where I’m at.
I’ve also given up on trying to be organized — look if it hasn’t happened by thirty I think we can all agree that I’m just a messy person who just might possibly thrive in piles and mini messes. “So I’m content?” I thought to myself. I guess that’s fine. But surely there has to be something I can fix, right?
After a small airport delay and long flight back home, I had some time to think. Airplanes are good for thinking. It’s weird how being trapped in a small area with a bunch of other thinking humans creates good head space. Same with coffee shops — give me a crowd and I’ll give you fluid, lucid thoughts. Anyways, after thinking for a bit I came to the conclusion that perhaps I’m content with being content in where I’m at in my life. But maybe there is something to a resolution elsewhere. One thing that I started this blog for was to find my style and every year it never disappoints me that I see my style grow and change and it feels more and more like me. But maybe this year instead of trying to set the same goals for myself that I set every year, maybe I should try something different. I started thinking about where I wanted my blog and style to go this year and before I knew it I had four new style resolutions on my plate.
A few style resolutions for this year:
1. Don’t be afraid to be afraid. Let’s be real: it’s the internet and sometimes the internet can be — well, frank. And sometimes when one tries something different or new or maybe perhaps even weird, the honesty of the change and the frankness of opinion can be stifling when moving forward with a change or hell even a mistake. But the trouble with that is that after a while, what once worked becomes bored and done. Different can be off-putting sometimes and the hardest part is sometimes things work and sometimes they don’t. But I never want to get to a place where I’m afraid to try. Sometimes I can talk myself out of trying something new because I don’t want to face negativity. This year I don’t want to be afraid to try a new idea or style or anything that comes to mind. (Within reason of course. Sometimes your gut just knows you shouldn’t wear that outfit.)
2. Style more. I can be lazy when it comes to my own closet and getting dressed everyday. For a solid blog post? Sure, I can put a great outfit together but sometimes on say a random Tuesday I feel lost in my closet. And the difference between a great outfit post and a random Tuesday is effort. I will put effort in when I know we have to get photos. But other days, I get lazy. That’s when my mind drifts to crazy ideas like I have nothing to wear. But I notice that if I just spend a few extra minutes — and I mean like 20 like not just 5 — if I give myself more time in the mornings, I can put together a killer outfit for the day. But style takes time and effort and sometimes I choose to be lazy and I waste a great opportunity to style myself. Nope, no more. Not this year. I want to use every piece in my closet to the fullest, let no difficult or boring piece go unworn. I don’t challenge myself enough to find more ways to wear a bold piece or a well worn piece even more ways. This year more styling, more trying different ways. If I bought it, it needs to be worn in many ways. And if a piece can’t be worn many ways, it’s a one note style and then maybe I should think twice about it and pass.
(Although I stand strong on my decision to buy a tulle skirt. That skirt has multiple notes, I can tell.)
3. Be bold. I know that this sounds exactly like number one but it’s different, I swear. I don’t mean be bold in the sense of brazenness or craziness but in maker bolder choices in what I buy and wear. To put a little Solange in my step, you know? This year I want to be a bit more colorful, more patterned, more playful. Who cares if no one has done it before? Try something new and be bold. Dressing bold doesn’t have to mean crazy, it just means a stronger step in the right direction of one’s style.
4. Invest right. Someone asked me a few posts ago if I ever had buyer’s remorse when it came to some styles I purchased in the last year. I thought about it for a second and a few pieces came to mind immediately. I am definitely a much better shopper now than I have ever been before — I know what styles fit me, what size works and doesn’t, which stores are best for me, etc. But this year I want to make sure that I’m investing right. That it’s not a panic purchase, but something that I can and will wear for many seasons to come. Denim, shoes, purses are all items I’ve invested in really well in the last year, but I think I can really take a step back and make sure that every piece I invest in will earn it’s place in my closet and leave the one notes behind.
What about you? Do you have any style resolutions coming to mind?