The Letter B

9.19.10fI met my husband while we were at school. He was not who I was looking for. I was looking for a tall, dark and handsome guy who wanted to go to law school alongside me. Or rather, I wasn’t looking for anyone at all.
My hair was short, his hair was long. I was polished, he was a hippie. He was all sorts of wrong, I tell you but he had the cutest smile. I couldn’t get him out of my head. So we dated and fell in love. And then I graduated, got a job in the city and waited for him to propose.
And waited.
And waited.
Every time we went to dinner, I thought that he was going to pop the question. He’d reach for his wallet and I’d prepare myself for him to pull out a ring. Until one day he did, in my apartment parking lot, where I least expected it.
We said our vows three short months later in front of our family and friends. We laughed, we cried, we said I do. Now three short years later, I wake up every morning and still say I do to the boy with the cutest smile.
A few people have asked about my necklace, as I wear it often. I wore it straight for our first year of marriage, never taking it off. We bought it on our honeymoon, during a time that we didn’t have much money. Originally the “B” was for my husband’s name and now almost three years since we bought that necklace, it has come to have a different meaning. I look at that initial as how I now look at our life we’ve built together. We used to move separately, waiting on the other one to catch up. But now we move together. What once meant one, now means both.

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  1. Alicia says:

    (both you & the story!)

    09.20.10 · Reply
  2. I understand. I wear an "M"

    09.20.10 · Reply
  3. Rayna J says:

    Kendi, I'm a huge fan of you and your blog! I love this post, so heartfelt and genuine. And you look lovely as ever.

    Here's to each week better than the last!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  4. Such a beautiful post.

    And I just had to say that I have the same grey moccasins…but my puppy destroyed them before they even made it onto my blog. Sadness. Love your look here—casual perfection!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  5. Norma says:

    adorable post =)


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  6. What a sweet story, Kendi. πŸ™‚

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  7. I love this story, it's so sweet πŸ™‚

    09.20.10 · Reply
  8. This is such a lovely post. Congrats Kendi!
    I hope that one day I'll have a story as sweet as this to tell. All the best to you two.

    ps you should totally make him wear a "K" necklace.

    pps loving the new site design

    09.20.10 · Reply
  9. This post is one of the sweetest Ive read in a very long time….its so nice to be reminded that true love DOES still exist:)

    Have a fashionable day!
    Statements in Fashion

    09.20.10 · Reply
  10. Sydney says:

    This is presh. For a second there, I thought you were gonna say B was for BABY!! haha … now THAT will be something to look forward too. Fashionista meets pregnancy. Anyways…love this post and this look. You are adorable, as always

    09.20.10 · Reply
  11. Apple says:

    So cute. I love that necklace and the mocassins.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  12. Monique says:

    Amazing! Such a beautiful story! I love that you wear the "B" very sweet!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  13. Linda says:

    such a sweet way of telling your story. sounds like your husband is as good as mine…who is currently making over my closet alone because he doesn't want me to breath in the paint fumes.
    also, you look really beautiful in these photos! aaaand, you've inspired me to cut off a pair of jeans…

    09.20.10 · Reply
  14. Samantha says:

    What an inspiring post! As someone who is far too young to be so jaded and on the verge of giving up on love, this is a wonderful reminder that fairytales do come true and love is out there. I wish you and your husband the best of luck for many more years to come : ) And on a lighter note- I love the dual meaning of your necklace! So pretty!


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  15. Elizabeth says:

    That is so sweet.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  16. Melanie says:

    sniff…sniff…beautifully told and inspiring.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  17. Hannah says:

    i wear the classic tiffany's joined circle's necklace.

    rarely take it off πŸ™‚

    09.20.10 · Reply
  18. Lovely. I'm glad you found that in life. You're truly deserving.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  19. JEN says:

    such a cute story! i love those moccasins by the way!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  20. Rin says:

    Very cute story. And very unique necklace. And cute outfit, too.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  21. Colleen says:

    Ironic post.
    I was going to your blog to leave a comment on your most recent post. I was going to say how you should write about your wedding and include some old shots. Also thinking you should post 1 picture from each of the past 5 years to show the evolution of styles.
    I get to the page and you wrote about your husband, dating him, being engaged, and getting married.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  22. Suseth says:

    That is such a cute story. I like what the B stands for. You look great in the pictures by the way….really happy.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  23. What a great story! Thanks for sharing it. It warms my heart (I hate being cheesy, but it's true). Love the moccasins!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  24. amanda says:

    beautiful. congratulations on three years. i hope you guys have many many more πŸ™‚

    09.20.10 · Reply
  25. Rachel says:

    thanks for that, Kendi! i'm a sucker for love stories… in fact, i'm in one now. we are engaged to be married in february and are definitely feeling similar to what you included in your post about how you and your man used to be separates but have since grown together. We come to situations with our own viewpoints… and It's not easy to sacrifice our own views in order to mold together… thanks for the encouraging reminder that this morphing process is all worth it:)

    09.20.10 · Reply
  26. Kathleen says:

    This story about you and your husband is very sweet. I really enjoy your sarcastic sense of humor in your regular posts but it's nice to see you write something like this too.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  27. lovely story, I am always a sucker for the story of how a couple met. Beautiful necklace, and I really like your blouse too!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  28. you are so so pretty! and that is such a cute story and necklace!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  29. Aww I love everything about this post! Your outfit, the new header, and your story. πŸ™‚

    09.20.10 · Reply
  30. Leah says:

    So beautiful and romantic!

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  31. Cami says:

    such a simple statement. makes me want to cry a little!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  32. Brittany says:

    aww, kendi, this was beautiful! what a sweet story and i love that you have a little symbol to remind you of everything you have together.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  33. Justine says:

    Aw this is so sweet Kendi!

    Just Better Together

    09.20.10 · Reply
  34. J E S S U says:

    How cute! Love that you shared your story with us! I hope someday my husband and I will "move together" instead of waiting for each other.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  35. What a beautiful, beautiful story.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  36. Abbey says:

    LOVE stories like this. (:

    09.20.10 · Reply
  37. Jameil says:


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  38. Brookelyn says:

    This is such a sweet story, and the necklace is beautiful, to boot!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  39. Grea outfit as always, but what an incredibly sweet story! Love it and thanks for sharing with us! happy 3rd anniversary!

    x Vivian @

    09.20.10 · Reply
  40. Grea outfit as always, but what an incredibly sweet story! Love it and thanks for sharing with us! happy 3rd anniversary!

    x Vivian @

    09.20.10 · Reply
  41. Your story was inspiring, and your outfit is darling.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  42. You are adorable. Everything about you. This made me smile really, really big. πŸ™‚

    I love your header! It's adorable!

    Lindsey Soup

    09.20.10 · Reply
  43. Aa says:

    O I love this story so much ! Thank you for sharing ! πŸ™‚

    09.20.10 · Reply
  44. i love your outfit. and your story. basically your entire blog. (:

    09.20.10 · Reply
  45. Oh Kendi, you're bringing a tear to my eye and making me a romantic fool!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  46. This is by far one of the best posts I have ever read out here in bloggyland.
    So well written for such an edited version of a relationship…your husband must be bursting with pride.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  47. Z says:

    Awww, Kendi, you know how to make a gal laugh, and you know how to make a gal cry.

    You are awesome! (And so pretty, too!)

    Can we be friends?

    09.20.10 · Reply
  48. sharonlei says:

    This by far is my favorite posts of yours Kendi. I love hearing about how couples get together, but what I love even more is when couples STAY together.

    xx Love & Aloha

    09.20.10 · Reply
  49. wow, that was well spoken. And naturally I love the outfit!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  50. hair-mess says:

    Such a sweet post – Congrats to you (B)oth. I know, I should say, Congrats to you two. But how else was I supposed to get the famous "B" in there? ;D

    09.20.10 · Reply
  51. Sophie says:

    Wow, I just teared up a bit! That was a beautiful story πŸ™‚ It's good to hear about love these days!

    And cute outfit, as usual… somewhere, someone (me) is copying your outfits every so often. Keep up the good work.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  52. Karen says:

    Made me cry. Real love stories are so much better than the made up Hollywood ones. Loving all your outfits.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  53. That was so beautiful! You're gonna make me cry (and I'm at work! So stop!) Happy anniversary to you!

    LOVE your new header! It's perfect!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  54. Zel says:

    Beautiful post! Happy 3rd anniversary for you both

    09.20.10 · Reply
  55. I love this post. I'm still waiting for my long-haired hippie boyfriend to propose, so I can strongly identify:) You are a lovely woman and a very good writer.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  56. Dip-tea says:

    Le Sigh! (I have the action speaks louder than words going on in this comment) Louder Sigh!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  57. eek says:

    I love the hear love stories like yours πŸ™‚

    You make casual look so comfortable and beautiful!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  58. Dip-tea says:

    I totally agree with you and your feelings. Two years of marriage and I feel the same. The only difference being I was the long haired hippie and my husband was the polished one. Now I am a polished hippie. I shine and I glow. And I have long hair.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  59. Such a cute love story πŸ™‚ and cute moccasins, too!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  60. Ejiro O. says:

    That's a wonderful love story, it shows the depth of love u have for ur husband.congrats on three years!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  61. holy $h*t that made me feel warm and fuzzy inside… and not cause it's hot outside. Lovely story.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  62. girl i know exactly how you felt about the waiting bc its what im doing right now lol. every time he even suggests we go somewhere i make sure to get extra pretty and sometimes dressed know, just in case. and then finding out hes wearing his bleach stained,holey cargo shorts and a t.

    he made the mistake last year of telling me in november he was going to propose by my birthday, in may. i know it better happen soon but the anticipation is killing me.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  63. What a beautiful post Kendi! Not only are these photos gorgeous, but your story is just so sweet!
    (ps. LOVE the new header!)

    09.20.10 · Reply
  64. So romantic!!!! You two sound like the cutest couple EVER!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  65. Jen says:

    That was the sweetest thing I have heard in a long time- I even teared up a little…thanks for the inspiration in fashion and in life.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  66. swatchcat says:

    Love this post. You summarized beautifully the essence of marriage. πŸ™‚

    09.20.10 · Reply
  67. Love this story & your outfit.
    So heartwarming! πŸ™‚

    09.20.10 · Reply
  68. What a sweet story! πŸ™‚ You two are so cute. Have you ever posted your wedding photos? Also, I'm severely jealous of your effortless hair.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  69. Kristel says:

    Simply Beautiful.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  70. Dawn says:

    Just when I think your last post was great, you go and top yourself. Love this!

    And once again I have to say, your skin/makeup look FLAWLESS! Please, please, pretty please with a cherry on top consider doing a post on your makeup routine. I have similar coloring and would love to know what products you routinely use (particularly in this post in which you're glowing, but then again, perhaps that can be attributed to the topic at hand). πŸ™‚


    09.20.10 · Reply
  71. Betsy says:

    Thanks for sharing your story!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  72. such a great post! I love the way you have made B for both! You are such a doll!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  73. Jill says:

    That story was absolutely beautiful! It brought tears to my eyes πŸ™‚ I'm so happy that you are both able to share your lives together. I feel the same way every day when I wake up to my boyfriend of almost 3 years πŸ™‚

    09.20.10 · Reply
  74. What an adorable story…and a great necklace.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  75. Hannah says:

    That's really sweet.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  76. Liss says:

    That's such a nice story and beautifully written! You look beautiful in these pictures!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  77. s says:

    Kendi, I know that at some point a literary agent is going to scoop you up because you are such a wonderful writer.

    Thanks for sharing this lovely story.

    09.20.10 · Reply
  78. Katelyn says:

    Love this post! Great background in pictures and very cute entry.


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  79. Love this post and love your blog!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  80. I don't comment much, but I've been a reader for quite some time.

    This is one of the sweetest posts I have ever read. Ever. Anywhere. Thanks for sharing your story! (and you look beautiful, as always!)

    09.20.10 · Reply
  81. What a sweet post. Hope your happiness continues for many years to come πŸ™‚

    09.20.10 · Reply
  82. annie says:

    I think I've commented once before, and whichever post it was, I said it was my favorite one of yours ever.

    I stand corrected.

    Seriously, you had me nearly in tears this morning (as I decide whether or not to continue my graduate education with a husband and full-time job in tow). What a beautiful, sincere post about what love looks like in real life.

    Oh, and the outfit? Just the cherry on top. I'd been thinking about that Anthro top, and now I think I may just take the plunge. Any way we could get some details on those moccasins?

    09.20.10 · Reply
  83. Loved this post : )

    And my boyfriend is from Minnetonka! I looooove the moccasins. Your blog is great – definitely one of my favorites.


    09.20.10 · Reply
  84. anna says:

    you look lovely! i don't know how you make jean shorts look so classy but i clearly need a lesson.

    i love the story about your man. so sweet!!!!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  85. Elle Sees says:

    AZww man! i'm featuring you on my blog tomorrow!!!

    09.20.10 · Reply
  86. this is one of the sweetest, most honest posts i've ever read! congratulations on three years!

    09.21.10 · Reply
  87. Aww, such a cute story and the necklace is gorgeous!

    09.21.10 · Reply
  88. lovely story, kendi! it almost brought tears to my eyes! i'm so happy that you have this great love in your life. it's hard to find, so hold on tight! πŸ˜‰ you two are adorable. i wish you many, many years of continued happiness.

    09.21.10 · Reply
  89. Hope says:

    Ahhh, tearing up a bit- so adorable!!

    On a clothes related note, I think I'm in love with the bangles and moccasin mix. You're always coming up with something inspiring!

    Hope and the Dress Code

    09.21.10 · Reply
  90. Sara says:

    That's very very sweet <3 I'm waiting for my own prince charming to come along! They say the right person comes along when you least expect it…well I'M NOT EXPECTING IT NOW!!

    I think everyone has that one piece of jewelry or charm that they always have with them, it just becomes a part of you after a while.

    09.21.10 · Reply
  91. Awww, that is so sweet!! I'm blinking back a tear right now, lol. I hope you guys have many many happy years together!

    09.21.10 · Reply
  92. sara b says:

    that was such a sweet story.

    09.21.10 · Reply
  93. Caroline says:

    Oh my goodness that is absolutely so sweet. I love the story. Adorable, truly.
    Also, I'm loving this casual outfit. That shirt looks so comfy, and I love your Minnetonkas!

    09.21.10 · Reply
  94. "I met my husband while we were at school. He was not who I was looking for. I was looking for a tall, dark and handsome guy who wanted to go to law school alongside me. Or rather, I wasn't looking for anyone at all.

    My hair was short, his hair was long. I was polished, he was a hippie. He was all sorts of wrong, I tell you but he had the cutest smile. I couldn't get him out of my head. So we dated and fell in love."

    This is my story too! So beautifully written.

    09.21.10 · Reply
  95. Emma says:

    Love it! And your blog! Cool new header photo as well…

    09.21.10 · Reply
  96. visiting your post and I do think you are really born to be a fashion blogger

    09.21.10 · Reply
  97. Jeanna says:

    Oh Kendi, what a cute story! So sweet, and it definitely sums up married life. You're adorable as usual. πŸ™‚

    09.21.10 · Reply
  98. Kendi, this is beautiful. With a capital B.

    09.21.10 · Reply
  99. Sara says:

    Do you still want to be a lawyer? No matter whom you love, you must must must follow your own desires and your own path.

    I love your writing – full of wit and candor. So live wherever, work wherever. But keep dreaming your own dreams and keep moving forward in ways that benefit YOU.

    09.21.10 · Reply
  100. Elizabeth L says:

    This is one my favorite posts. Ever. And I absolutely love your blog πŸ™‚ Thanks for sharing such a beautiful story with us. Who could ask for anything more?

    09.21.10 · Reply
  101. Judy R. says:

    Kendi, I don't know what I love more, your style or your writing. Both are adorable. Thank you.

    09.21.10 · Reply
  102. Keira says:

    This post made me smile πŸ™‚

    09.21.10 · Reply
  103. Jamie says:

    absolutely in love with this post.
    you and your husband are too cute.
    i too wear an itial necklace quite often – M for Miller.
    I'm so very proud to be his wife and those little sentiments mean a lot to us but to them as well.
    i've started giving those out as bridal shower gifts πŸ™‚
    love the new blog header btw.
    any tips on how i can do that myself!? i need all the help i can get!

    09.21.10 · Reply
  104. Ashley J says:

    I could not have read this post at a better time! My husband and I had a car accident Sunday and the car was totaled. I have not let him out of my sight because I feel so mush closer to him now that I know I could have lost him. Always cherish what you have because you never know when it can be taken away:(

    09.21.10 · Reply
  105. Bridget says:

    bah, i love the love story. love the love.
    and your outfit is really great too. i want minnetonkas.

    09.21.10 · Reply
  106. Archives says:

    oh my gosh, kendi – you two are too adorable! πŸ™‚

    09.21.10 · Reply
  107. I love reading your blog and hearing your stories. Keep up the awesome work and the sassy outfits!

    09.22.10 · Reply
  108. and does that mean "B"aby?!?! maybe I'm reading too far between the lines..LOL!

    That's beautiful either way!!!

    still loving the fact that I stumbled across your blog two months ago πŸ™‚

    09.23.10 · Reply
  109. J.S. says:

    I love the simplicity of this outfit….


    09.24.10 · Reply
  110. Jen says:

    Thank you for not just sharing your great style and humor with us but real life. The stuff that sorta sucks but also makes us human – in a very good sense.
    As someone looking in (not in a creeper way or anything) it's nice to know that even "happy perfect marriages" we read about on the internet still have ups and downs. Like burnt pizza and confusion about life plans and… I love and admire your candor.
    And though you hardly need some stranger rooting you and your husband on in your mawiage – here I am saying "Go You Two!!!" like the idiot applauding her friends at a bowling alley -hopefully it will still be seen as a positive even if it is ridiculous.

    Love the necklace. Love the story. Love that you shared it here.

    09.25.10 · Reply
  111. Lauren says:

    just came across your blog! i love it and especially love the letter b story!

    10.19.10 · Reply
  112. Priscila says:

    This is one of the sweetest posts I have ever read. I almost cried when I read it.Β 

    08.20.12 · Reply
  113. Was this an anniversary post? Β If so… September 19th was my anniversary too – this fall (2012) we'll be married three years! Β Denny was not what I was initially looking for either, but he has wonderful eyes and is the best friend I've ever had.

    08.21.12 · Reply
  114. Trishna Desai says:

    Hi Kendi, I've been following your blog for a few months now and I have to say you're my fashion idol. I was sent here from the Aug 21st post… and I have to say this post brought a huge smile and an instant tear to my eye! hisThis post is just soo sweet and you and your husband make an incredibly cute couple! I wish you two many many more years of happiness! πŸ™‚

    08.21.12 · Reply
  115. Brianne says:

    Oh my gosh Kendi, this is the sweetest post I have ever read. I love the last line! And awesome outfits by the way! I love your style!!

    08.21.12 · Reply